包办婚姻的好处(英文版)

Tunnel of love -- Arranged Marriage

Name: Nicole Yufang Jin

Student number: 201035046

Class: 10 FB2

Date: 2012-10-29 Arranged marriage is better than the free marriage because of saving much time, effort and money, reducing the argument, having more financial security. Then the couple will get on well with each other. So the rate of divorce will reduce.

Firstly, arranged marriage can save much time, effort and money. Don’t worry that we can’t find a suitable person. Moreover, boys will not think out lots of ideas to let girls like him. What’s more, boys won’t take lots of money to know the girl. The article by Sharon-Queano claims that “In times of difficulty, the couple can count on the help of their parents and in-laws for physical, emotional and financial support.” (Queano,2012)

Arranged marriages can avoid to happen the relationships before getting married, or courting her. In some situation, people oppose things that waste time and be very embarrassed to have a date and courtship. Arranged marriages usually reduce the years to date with many persons, and people don’t need to do that to find a good lover. ( CLVB, 2008)

Secondly, arranged marriage will reduce the argument between husband’s mother and wife. Parents will choose a suitable person who comes from the same background. What’s more, parents have know the girl’s everything and like her. The girl has known husband’s mother’s temper and character. Then the girl will follow the parent’s attitude to deal with some things. In addition, If you meet with some trouble,

girl’s parents and boy’s parents will talk about them and help you solve them. Sharon-Queano says: “of the parents’ wisdom and consent of the child would lead to a happier union so divorce would be unlikely.” (Queano, 2012). So Parents will get on well with children.

In the society, many people are very traditional. Sometimes, spouses live in the same place together with their parents. If they have some trouble, they can ask for parents for help, such as : physical, emotional and supporting finance. If they have their own children, both of them can go to work. It is not a question that they will find enough babysitters, because grandparents will care and bring up the children. So the children are kept watch on close family’members. Children live in a good environment will be relaxing. If wife quarrels with husband, grandparent can give them some advice and have a sessions to arbitrate. ( Queano, 2012)

Thirdly, there is more financial security in the arranged marriage. If you have trouble in your job, both parents will help you. Besides, the life rich and don’t worry that they have no enough money to live. In addition, you will not get in tough with some bad persons and be swindled money. CLVB says that “Families/matchmakers try and choose suitors who are secure and well-off in finances, which ensures that money will be something that is always able to be gained in the case of an emergency or other such events.” ( CLVB, 2008)

Arranged marriages make sure that they can get on well with a new family. And then parents, grandparents and siblings welcome the new member. This spouse will not quarrel with parents more often. They accept you. (Farley, 2004)

To sum up, there are many advantages of arranged marriage. The article by Ezriel Gelbfish shows that “In fact, according to a study conducted in India, arranged marriages appear to surpass love marriages in intensity at the five year mark, and to be twice as strong as love marriages within ten years.” (Gelbfish,2012). It is useful way to look for the other half in our lives.

References

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CLVB. ( 2008). Arranged Marriage-Why Or Why not?. Hubpages. Retrieved August 25,2008, from

https://www.360docs.net/doc/2e11166415.html,/hub/Arranged-Marriage--Why-or-Why-not Gelbfish, E. (2012, July6). Study On Arranged Marriages Reveals That Orthodox Jew May Have It Right. The algemeiner. Retrieved October8, 2012, from

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1. avoidance of pre-marriage relationships/courtship. In some cases, people are very averse to the often awkward and time-consuming tango of dating and courtship. Arranged marriages often eliminate the years many waste dating multiple persons, and allow persons to find a good spouse without the need to do so.

2. In traditional societies, spouses sometimes live with the parents or live in the same housing compound. In times of difficulty, the couple can count on the help of their parents and in-laws for physical, emotional and financial support. When the children are born and both spouses work, finding adequate babysitters is a non-issue because the grandparents pitch in the care and nurturing of the children. The children are therefore supervised by close family members instead of by complete strangers, making them comfortable because they live in an atmosphere that they know well. Needless to add, when the couple has arguments, well-meaning elders can step in and offer advice and “arbitration” sessions.

3. Arranged marriages ensure family support of a union. It is important that parents, grandparents and siblings embrace a new spouse, as this spouse becomes a new member of a family. When marriages are arranged, spouses have already earned the approval of family. The new spouse will not be rejected by a family, causing tension between a child and parents.