the 7 habits of highly effective people读后感

In the book the 7 habits of highly effective people, the author tells us a lot of principles about how individuals and enterprises succeed for a long time in a proper way. From the experiences told by the author, I thought a lot and reflected on who I was and how I did before. And some ideas really impressed me. I have a self-criticism to myself and make up my mind to improve myself in these following ways.

Firstly, translate myself in a all-round way. Our ability is always limited, so we are likely to fail to change the environment we are in. What we can do is just to adapt ourselves to the environment. However, we are easily affected by our stereotyped views which is formed from the time when we were young. As a result, we fail to treat everything in a objective attitude. Therefore, we should change our traditional ideas when we meet new issues or creative ideas. Only in this way can we have a full understanding of ourselves and accept the opposite ideas objectively. Here, I say to translate myself, but I do not mean that I can change myself without principle. First of all, we ought to set up a moral outlook by ourselves and follow close to it. Otherwise, we can not have permanent happiness an achievement. To translate ourselves is a long and hard way, and we should accomplish the goal step by step. One we can not forget is that sometimes we should admit our ignorance. For example, image that we are studying in the classroom, and the teacher is talking in the front of the classroom. If we do not ask question when we are faced with some difficult details, how can the teacher know our levels of understanding? At last, we may miss much knowledge so that we fail to pass the exam. Learned from this situation, I know that only when we admit our fault and imperfection can we successfully realize our disadvantages and improve ourselves thoroughly.

Secondly, prepare for the perfectly satisfactory life. There is a say goes, thoughts determine actions; actions determine habits; habits determine morality; morality determines destiny. Habits have a big influence on our life because they can make us reveal our natural characters unconsciously, which control our fortune to a large extent. We all know that the process of getting rid of bad habits and fostering healthy habits is full of challenges, but it is worthy. After hardworking and sacrifice, the fruits we get will be more sweet. In the book, the author also put forward a new suggestion that we should put emphasis not only on outcome, but also on the people or the machines that contribute to the output. Let me take an example. Someone was too tired to work, but he never think of having a rest. In the end, he got sickness and could not work any more. Do you think he was wise enough to be such a sightless hardworking person? Surely not! Thus, to be more effective, you should learn how to relax yourself so as to get enough energy which supports you to go even further.

Thirdly, benefit other people as well as myself. One can not be an islet in today's society because he is always related to the people, units and environment around him. To get along well with others, most importantly, you must have great virtues, such as kindness, honesty, politeness and so on. What is more, you should try to understand others putting yourself in his position instead of just setting yourself against the people who do not have the same ideas with you. In this way, we lose nothing but get a lot that we never think of before. In addition, we can depend on each other as well as draw on collective wisdom and absorb all useful ideas. Besides, we should learn to

keep our eyes on details. Some people often overlook the details because they think that those are out of matter. But they are wrong. Details can determine one's success. If you just ignore the details, they can be a harmful hit in a crucial moment. When we make friends, details can also have an influence on the impression that you give your friends. The last point is to be brave to apologize to others. To admit your fault and apologize really need a lot of courage. However, if you succeed to do that, others will think highly of you and much more willing to be friends with you. As a result, what you get is not just friendship, but something far more valuable.

Fouthly, seize the key point of my life. There are so many trivial matters around us that make us feel disturbed all the time. If we do not manage these things in order, we will always suffer from restless annoyance. Therefore, it is necessary to have time management and personal management. When we are managing our time, we should be flexible. We are expected to know what is more important, what is less important, what is more urgent and what is less urgent. Only when we clearly understand what is much more important and urgent can we finish our task perfectly. Otherwise, we will be flown away by the flood of trifles and unable to get rid of it. When it comes to personal management, first, we should be clear about the rules we are playing of in the society. Then, set up an ambitious goal and make every effort to achieve it. Also, not forger to adjust the goal according to the situation daily.

Lastly, be a good listener. And I think this is what I have done well. It is not easy to be a good listener for we tend to judge what others say by our values. What's worse, we are in favor of getting to the root and teaching others by our own experience. In this way, we can not say that we have though of others sincerely without selfishness. Maybe you are just desirable to show off your own unique experience or be proud of being a "teacher". What we should do is to put ourselves in others' shoes, looking for the sake of others. Meanwhile, it also applies when we negotiate in business. Conflicts of interest often occur in commercial negotiation because both sides want the maximum benefit. If you only consider your interest from your perspective, the negotiation will break down. So why not put aside the prejudice and give our suggestions bases on how others understand? In this way, our suggestions can be more acceptable.