家有千金的爸爸们才会懂这6件事

6 Things Only Dads With Daughters Would Understand

One of the greatest moments in my life was the day my daughter was born. While a lot of men wish for a son to throw a football around or share a love of cars with, raising a girl can be equally rewarding. Here are the reasons why having a daughter has been one of the most fulfilling life experiences for me.

我生命中最辉煌的时刻之一就是我女儿出生的那一天。虽然很多男人都希望要个儿子，能够一起玩足球或是分享对汽车的喜爱，但抚养一个女孩子也同样值得。这有一些为什么有一个女儿一直是我最有成就感的生活经历之一的原因。

She can be taught how to do anything she puts her mind to

可以教她怎样专心去做任何事情

Having a daughter carries a lot of responsibility, especially with making sure she does not feel limited by her gender. Early on my wife and I discussed the importance of raising our girl to be open-minded to anything and everything that interests her. I especially wanted to make sure that she felt competent to

play any sport or excel in math and science at school, areas that are usually thought of as more male-focused pursuits.

有个女儿带来了许多责任，特别是要确保它不会因性别而感到限制。不久之前，我和妻子讨论了把女儿抚养成对感兴趣的事持开放态度的重要性。我尤其想要确保她能够在学校中，感到自己有能力去做任何运动，去学好数学和科学，这些通常更多被认为是男性主导的区域。

She is influenced by her parents’ relationship with each other

她会被父母间的关系影响到

A daughter is aware of how I treat her mom and how we balance our relationship within the context of our daily lives. I try to make sure that she sees that I do my fair share of the chores and help out around the house with cooking and childcare. It is important that she experiences firsthand parents who strive to have equality both professionally and at home as well. My hope is that when she gets old enough she will take a similar model with her own relationships. 女儿知道我如何对待她的母亲，以及我们如何在日常生活中平衡我们的关系。我试着确保她看到我会公平分担家务，在家里力所能及得做饭和照顾孩子。重要的是她亲身体验了父母，他们努力在专业上和家里都维持平等。我的希望是，当她长大后，她会采取类似的模式对待她自己的夫妻关系。

She needs me most during her teenage years

她在青年时期最需要我

She has a few more years, but I know that when my daughter becomes a teenager this is the time she needs me the most. I have heard from other dads how difficult these years can be with their daughters, but I am determined to stand by her thick and thin. I know that I will not be able to be much help in the female department with periods and new body changes, but I will make sure that she knows I am there to lean on whether she is going through her first heartbreak or having trouble with friends.

她还有好几年才会到青少年时期，但我知道当我的女儿成为青少年时，她最需要我。我也听说过其他的父亲在这几年会与女儿相处地多么困难，但我决心要永远支持她。我知道我不能在女性生理周期和新的身体变化方面提供太多帮助，但我会让她知道，不管她是正在经历第一次分手还是和朋友出现了矛盾，我都会在她身边给她依靠。

She needs to learn how to stand her own ground

她需要学会坚持自己的立场

One of the most important things I can teach her is to be assertive and fight for what is right. This is a essential trait that will benefit her throughout her entire life. Whether she is being told she is not talented enough or teased for a certain way that she appears or thinks, there is no stronger weapon than teaching her how to fight back with her words.

我能教给她的最重要的事情之一就是要自信并坚持正确的事情。这是一个必要的特质，可以让她终生受益。不管她是被告之才华不够还是被取笑她所做或所想的某种方式，交给她用自己的话反击回去是最好的方式。

She flourishes from sharing her interests with you

她会从与你分享她的兴趣中得到快乐

I have realized that it is important to show interest in the activities and hobbies that she enjoys, even if it is something that does not interest me in the slightest. When my daughter was younger she loved playing with her toy horses, creating elaborate stables for them out of building blocks and spending hours galloping the around the living room. What made her even more happy was the moments that I joined her on the ground and participated in her make-believe world. I have made it my duty as she grow up to continue to be present for all the things that she loves to do, whether it is a dance recital or a soccer game.

我意识到对她喜欢的活动和爱好表现出兴趣是很重要的，即使这是一件我并不感兴趣的事情。当我的女儿还小的时候，她喜欢玩她的玩具马，用积木为它们创造精致的马厩，花几个小时在客厅里舞动。让她更高兴的是，我会在地上和她一起玩耍，加入她想象的世界。我把这当成了一种责任，即在她长大后会继续分享所有她爱做的事，无论是舞蹈表演或足球比赛。

She needs to hear that she is smart as well as beautiful

她需要听到她是聪明美丽的

Telling my daughter she is smart is one of the most important phrases that I can say to her and it never will grow old. It is important as a dad of a daughter to not only complement her on her outward appearance, but also encourage her intelligence and remind her that looks are not as important as what is inside your mind.

告诉我的女儿她很聪明，这是我会向她说的最重要的短语之一，永远不会过时。对于一个父亲来说，重要的是不仅要夸耀她美丽的外表，还要赞赏她的聪明，提醒她长相并不如内在一样重要。