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Being mindful in conversations is a hallmark characteristic of a good listener, Sacco notes. When you're fully aware in the moment, you're more likely to retain what you're hearing and respond with more authenticity. That means stashing those phones and ridding yourself of all distractions.
留心对话是一个好的倾听者的标志特征，萨科讲道。

当你完全留心于此刻，就更有可能保留你所听到的，同时给出更准确的回应。

这意味着把手机放在一边，摆脱所有让你分神的事物。

"Good listeners really put everything down and focus on the person in front of them," he says. "And as a result, the other person becomes instantly aware that they have an interest in what they have to say."
“好的倾听者会真正放下一切，专注于自己眼前的人，”他讲道。

“因此，讲话的一方会当即感受到他们在意自己接下来要讲的。

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Part of effective listening is the effort to empathize with the person you're speaking with. Whether or not you're able to fully relate, your compassion won't go unnoticed. "Spend a moment putting yourself in their position, what's going through their head and what it must be like for them," Sacco says.
有效倾听的一部分就是要尝试站在和你讲话的人的角度。

无论你是否能完全设身处地，你的恻隐之心不会被忽略。

“花些时间把自己摆在他人的角度，想想他们脑中所想以及由此而生的感受，”萨科讲道。

"Understanding what their experience is even before you talk to them [can help you connect with them]. And it sounds bad, but even if you blow it, you're still better off because the other person will see the attempt."
“甚至在和他们讲话前，就了解他们的感受。

这点会帮助你和他们建立联系。

虽然听起来糟糕，可即使尝试泡汤了，你仍有优势，因为另一个人会看到你的努力。

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