《男人来自火星,女人来自金星》读后感(英语)
《男人来自火星,女人来自金星》读后感
《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》读后感今天给大家推荐的书籍是约翰格雷的《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》，全球累计销量1.4亿册，受欢迎程度直逼世界第一的《圣经》；被美国青少年男女公认为走向和谐恋爱、保持美满婚姻关系的唯一圣经权威指南。
推荐大家阅读这本书，并不代表要全盘接受书中的思想，东西方文化之间存在着巨大的差异，理解每一本外国书籍所表达的思想，首先要解决的是水土不服的问题。
即使作者是世界著名的情感大师，书中的某些观点放在中国当下，肯定会有出入，但是我们完全可以把它当作一本大众心理自助书籍，阅读它的目的是提供一个审视两性关系的角度。
承认两性差异，理解和包容对方的不同，掌握有效的沟通方法，最终找到一个和而不同、互相理解、相互尊重、和谐相处的法则。
看到这里，读者一定以为我接下来会写两性要如何相处，但并不是。
看这本书我只是承认两性之间的差异，但并不认为两性之间的相处需要这么复杂的原理。
真正相爱的两个人，灵魂上应该是高度切合的，还有一个原因是，即使道理我们都懂，但却依然过不好这一生。
所以，接下来我要表达的是既然差异已经存在，而我们又无法改变对方的时候，我们应该怎么面对两性关系。
作者约翰格雷在书中提出男人和女人来自不同的星球，生理和心理上都是大不相同的，男人来自火星，重视能力、效率及成就。
女人来自金星，重视爱、沟通与关系，更感性。
从这本书的理论知识切入生活，从女性的视角聊聊大学里我所知道的两性关系。
大学里的性教育相比较义务教育阶段，确实开放了很多，最起码这个群体不会谈性色变。
我问过身边的女性朋友，谈到性，你首先想到的是什么？有人说是激情、浪漫、荷尔蒙、快乐；也有人回答是恐惧、强迫、怀孕、性病。
我从小到大受到的性教育中，从来没有人告诉过我性本身是美好的，大学也一样，大多是反性骚扰的教育；也没有人告诉我，性骚扰不仅仅只是触摸了敏感的部位，任何让人不舒服的触摸其实都是性骚扰；更没有人告诉我，性骚扰侵犯的是我的身体权，而不是所谓的贞操。
男人来自火星女人来自金星读书分享
从此，男人和女人陷入了矛盾和冲突 ...
本书主题
主 题
通过了解男人和女人彼此沟通风
格和情感需求的差异性，提出改善
爱的给予方式 取悦彼此方式
沉默 物质 善用感激
倾诉
物质+精神
关心+信任
解决办法
宽容对方，调整自己
释放消极情感——给自己写情书
我的观点
•Mars and Venus Together Forever (Harper Perennial 1996年)
•Mars and Venus In Love (HarperCollins 1996年) •Mars and Venus On a Date (Harper Collins 1997年) •Mars and Venus Starting Over (HarperCollins 1998年) •Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Book of Days (HarperCollins 1998年) •How To Get What You Want and Want What You Have (HarperCollins 1999年) •Children Are from Heaven (HarperCollins 1999年) •Practical Miracles for Mars and Venus (HarperCollins 2000年) •How To Get What You Want at Work (HarperCollins 2002年) •Truly Mars & Venus (HarperCollins 2003年) •The Mars & Venus Diet & Exercise Solution (St. Martin’s Press 2003年)
《男人来自火星,女人来自金星》读后感(英语)
Impression after Reading---Men Are from Mars, Women Are from VenusI am 22 years old. I have never had a boyfriend. If I am an American, people will think there must be something wrong with me. But fortunately, I am a Chinese. Nobody will laugh at me or think I am weird or something for I having never hanged out with a boy for almost 22 years. Well, I really do not know much about males and I even feel a little afraid when I am walking alone with a boy, especially a boy I like..This term, I bought a book with my curiosity. It is a best-selling book in America. The name of the book is Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. The author is John Gray, Ph.D. He is an internationally recognized expert in the fields of communications and relationships. There was one sentence on the cover that caught my eyes: The classic guide to understand the opposite sex. I think that is the reason that I bought it----getting to know boys.The beginning of the book is quite imaginary. Suppose that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. One day long ago the Martians, looking through their telescopes, discovered the Venusians. Just glimpsing the Venusians awakened feelings they had never known. They fell in love and quickly invented space travel and flew to Venus. Well, you may doubt how they can fall in love with each other and how they will get along well with each other.In this book, we can not only understand the opposite sex, but also know how to establish a harmonious relationship with the opposite sex. There are several things that the author explores: how men’s and women’s values are inherently different and try to understand the two biggest mistakes we make in relating to the opposite sex; the different ways men and women cope with stress; how to motivate the opposite sex; how men and women have different needs for intimacy; how to avoid painful arguments; the ways to communicate with each other during difficult times; the four seasons of love.With discovering so many things, I think what I learn from the book is not just the opposite sex, love, and marriage, but more about human beings minds. In other words, it is like a psychological book, teaching us how to act and how to understand others’ acts. It is a kind of reflection. It happens in everyone, not just in the opposite sex. As long as we know each others’ thoughts, we can understand each other better,as the human nature’s point of view.There are obvious differences between men and women. Men gain self-satisfaction through proving their power and ability. To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he does not know what to do or that he can not do it on his own. People say men are always more sensitive than women, it is true to some degree. When men are faced with a problem, they will try to find a solution rather than just talking about the problems like women. In daily life, they pay more attention to “object s” and “things” rather than people and feelings. And especially when they feel needed, they can also feel great happiness. I always wondered that why it seems that in a romantic relationship, men often give more than women do. The reason seems to be apparent now, it is b ecause when a man’s girlfriend or wife needs him, he is eager to help her and meet her needs, which will give him a sense of achievements. Therefore, when you have a boyfriend, do not always do things on your own or reject his help, which can help to keep a good relationship. Just like the author said,” Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed.”Well, the description of the life on Venus is quite true in the real world. Women are more interested in communication, beauty and relationship. I think I am the person like that. The same will be true to most of girls. We do not usually talking about politics, sports or economy and we like to share things with others and chat with others about our emotions, life or the people around us. In the book, the author also mentions that when women are faced with a problem, they like to talk every detail of it because they may feel better after talking them out. Well, I think I am a little different on this point. I prefer to find a way to solve my problems instead of complaining or talking. What’s more, I won’t feel better if I just talk about it, I need to solve it. It may like the way that men use. But if I have a boyfriend, first I will tell him about my problem, then we can find solutions together to solve the problems. That is the way I like.Of course, there are still many other differences. But the most important thing for us to do is not to focus on the difference, but learn how to accept and interpret them. I think it is also vital to build a happy marriage. When a man and a woman from two planets live together, it is not easy to maintain the happiness all the time. The different habits, languages and reactions toward things will all be obstacles. Sometimes, each of them may have an incorrect belief. A woman is vulnerable when she feels she does not deserve to be loved, be cared for or be cherished. For women, being disappointed, abandoned or ignored is especially painful. In order to compensate for thisfundamental fear, they give and give, but deep inside they do not feel worthy of receiving. While men hold an incorrect belief that they are afraid of not being good enough, they are not competent enough to give what women want. So it is just as women are afraid of receiving and men are afraid of giving. On this topic, I must say I also feel the same way sometimes. I do not know whether boys will feel like that, but I am sure I do. Precisely, it is not just constrained between male and female, this feeling happens in daily life at any time about all the people around me. I always try my best to be a good, so I try to help, to forgive, and to give. I hope what I do can be recognized by others and gain their love, care or attention. But sometimes, things work the other way around. What I mostly can not accept is being ignored. Getting hurt is inevitable and I do not want to give up being a good person even though I have a great disappointment in my heart. In other words, I do not help others that because hoping others’ return or I even think I do not deserve to get good returns, just because I want to be a good human being who being good to her partners.To be honest, I can get happy when being good to others, loving them and giving more. Since love has the magical power to make people happy, strong and unified, to preserve the sweet love between men and women seems quite important, especially when they get married.Basically, we need to know what he or she is saying, because men and women speak different languages. Here are some examples in the book. “I am so tired, I can’t do anything” translated into Martian means “I have been doing so much today, I really need a rest before I can do anything more. I am so lucky to have your support. Would you give me a hug and reassure me that I am doing a good job and that I deserve a rest?” Without this translation, when a woman say “I am so tired, I can’t do anything.” a man may hear “I do everything and you do nothing. You should do more.I can’t do it all. I feel so hopeless. I want a‘real man’to live with. Picking you was a big mistake.”“This house is always mess” translated into Martian means “Today I feel like relaxing, but the house is so messy. I am frustrated and I need a rest. I hope you don’t expect me to clean it all up. Would you agree with me that it is a mess and then offer help to clean up part of it?” Without this translation, a man may hear “This house is a mess because of you. I do possible to clean it up, and before I have finished, you have messed it up again. You are a lazy slob and I do not want to live with you unless you change. Clean up or clean out!”Looking at the examples, I begin to think about my parents. It is kind of similar, but my parents’ situation is worse than that. If my mother says the house is messy, myfather would say it is your responsibility to clean it up, not mine, it is not useful to tell me about this fact. Oh, my god! I hate it when my father says that. What a kind of masculinism! Sometimes I really think there is no way for the opposite sex can understand you completely, and you may get enraged about it. But we still need to work out some ways to get close to understand each other. That is why the book is so famous because people are seeking for solutions in order to avoid pain.In addition to the different languages, habits and behaviors can also matter. A woman can tell a man she doesn’t like the way he dresses and ask him if he can change something. But if he is sensitive about this comment, she should apologize and say “I am sorry, I didn’t mean to tell you how to dress.” If she doesn’t like his table manner, she can not just say it in front of people, what she should do is to wait for a time when no one else is around and then share her feelings. Don’t tell him how he should behave or that he is wrong, instead share honest feelings in a loving and brief way.What’s more, men and women use different ways to cope with stress. Women like to talk while men like to keep silent and go to their cave. When a man goes into a cave, he is saying “I need some time to think about this, please stop talking to me”. He may not realize that a woman may hear “I don’t love you, I can’t stand to listen to you, I am leaving and I am never coming back.” In order to reassure a woman that he does n’t mean this, he should say like this “I need some time to think about this, I will be back” or “I need some time to be alone, I will be back”. “I will be back”, these simple words are appreciated by a woman and she feels still being loved. So she will feel relief to let him be alone for a while. That is the right way that makes a woman to understand a man’s cave.What I can tell from above is that men are always expecting a gentle way from women and women are always expecting an assured way. When misunderstandings arise, remember that we speak different languages; take the time necessary to translate what your partner really means or wants to say. This takes practice.After so much discussion about the differences between men and women, it can be concluded that women need caring and men need trust; women need understanding and men need acceptance; women need respect and men need appreciation; women need devotion and men need admiration; women need validation and men need approval; women need reassurance and men need encouragement. Different needs require different understandings. We all know that love has four seasons. In spring, people fall in love. Love seems eternal. It is a magic time. In summer, it is a time forrealizing. We realize that out partner is not so perfect. We become frustrated and disappointed. In autumn, it is a golden time----rich and fulfilling. We experience a more mature love that accepts and understands each other’s imperfections. In winter, it is a time that painful feelings emerge and it is a time of reflection, healing and renewal. After the cold winter journey, we are then able to open hearts and feel the springtime of love.This book is not only talking about love, the opposite sex, marriage, it is also talking about understanding, human nature and relationship. Whenever you walk in one’s life, you can not just walk away after you check it up. Accept the differences between you, and try to understand them and make you closer. When you have a good time, open your heart to enjoy it; when you have a bad time, try to find a way to heal it. We don’t need to find out whether love is eternal or not, we just need to find a good way to protect it, improve it, and feel it.。
男人来自火星女人来自金星读后感
男人来自火星女人来自金星读后感男人来自火星女人来自金星读后感这本书我可以说是“久仰大名”，终于有缘一见，哈哈。
厚厚的一本书，其实精华在前言。
老话说的好“男女有别”，这四个字可以说是这本书的最简单的概括。
厚厚的一本书也就是对这四个字做了全方位的解释。
而我深刻的感受可以说是在男女感情问题上‘知己知彼百战百胜“。
由于男人和女人生理结构不同、大脑结构不同、潜藏的基因历史遗留不同，一系列的不同导致男人和女人不同的情感需求，不同的思维，交流方式，因为这些差异的存在，使得男人和女人好像来自两个星球一样。
而《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》可以说是对与男人和女人关系的全景解析，想让自己获得意中人的心，以及好好经营自己的婚姻的话，都应该好好看看这本书。
全书共分了十五章，可以挑选着来看。
可以从目录来选自己喜欢的章节，比如我一开始看的是十一章”让婚姻的纽带更坚实——火星人和金星人的婚姻对话“。
第二节”什么样的女人最好命“。
这一节中最认可最后两点”好性格造就女人的好命运”，什么是好性格呢？“对于一个人来说，拥有诸如坚韧、勇敢、冷静、理智、独立等性格，无疑就等同于拥有了一笔巨大的财富。
坚韧会让你在困难面前永不低头，勇敢则让你能够面对一切挫折，冷静和理智会让你永远保持清醒，独立则会让你不受他人的摆布。
”另一点是“会说话的女人一生幸福”，引用一段话“对于一个女人来说，漂亮的脸蛋、姣好的身材、脱俗的气质等是让她们魅力十足的先决条件。
可是，如果一个女人满口脏话、出言不逊的话，恐怕也不会得到别人的喜欢。
女人的命运好坏，与会不会说话有着很大的关系。
因为说话可以帮女人建立和谐的.人际关系，也可以破坏女人的人际关系。
会不会说话，不仅决定了女人人际关系的好坏，也决定了女人感情和婚姻的品质以及一生的幸福。
这两段话我是最应该学习的，也是一直在改变的。
这么多年来，觉得会不会说话确实是很重要的！其实男人嘛，只要掌握一个原则去和他说话就绝对不会错。
”男人是要靠哄的。
《男人来自火星,女人来自金星》读后感
读《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》有感国际知名的人际关系和情感问题研究专家约翰·格雷用了整整7年时间，咨询调查了25000人，推出了《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》。
该书一经出版，立刻轰动世界，被誉为是迄今为止世界上最著名的两性情感关系图书。
《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》这本书是获得与异性完美关系的最佳指南，是一本有价值、非常有必要的读物，它对理解男人和女人的沟通是一个突出的贡献。
呈献给中国各年龄层男女读者面前的这本书，是一本有助于完善夫妻关系、保持美满婚姻，使夫妻结伴走完人生旅途的通俗性的心理自助读物。
全书共十三章，作者以男女来自不同的星球这一新鲜、生动、形象的比喻作为他的全部实践活动的理论支撑点:即男人和女人无论是在生理上还是心理上，无论是在语言上还是在情感上，都是大不相同的。
这一比喻贯穿着他的整本书，并冠以书名之中。
男女两性之间，永远存在这样或那样的差异，这要求我们在两性关系中我们要变得宽容和体贴。
宽容、体贴，可以帮助我们相互理解对方，同时宽容和体贴也是人生最大的财富，是上帝赋予你的弥足珍贵的礼物。
当今社会，有各种各样的压力，每个人都希望在自己空闲的时间享受伴侣带来的温馨、浪漫。
尤其是在压力越大的时候，愿望就越强。
如今离婚率的不断攀升，很大一个原因就是我们不了解两性之间的差异，造成了误会，然后产生了三观不一致的错觉。
当我们读完这本书，了解了彼此的差异，就可以很好的换位思考，宽容、体谅对方，在两性关系中形成良性循环，让情感生活拥有无限美好的未来。
读完这本书，可以让人掌握异性的语言，快速了解彼此的差异。
每一次阅读，都会给人带来轻松愉悦；每一次阅读，都可以点燃伴侣之间爱的火焰；每一次阅读，都可以使人明白：爱是理解、给予和宽容。
男人来自火星,女人来自金星 读后感
一、面对压力女人最看重的不是问题的本身，而是由它带来的烦躁情绪和感觉，一旦有了问题，她们最希望找到自己很信任，能给她们安全感的人，和他（她）谈论问题，她们从谈论的过程中得到满足，很多时候甚至会无逻辑的从一件事情跳到另外一件事情上，只要是情绪上有关联的事情，她们不会在意事件本身之间的逻辑关系。
除非她们很认真的问我该怎么办，否则谈话的目的不是为了寻求解决方法，而是寻求一种被理解，被疼爱。
只要她们情绪上转化过来了，那问题的本身就不重要了。
所以当一个女人情绪处于谷底的时候，你只需要认真的倾听就好了，告诉她你明白她的感受，抱一抱，告诉她不用担心有你呢。
等她情绪好转，那一切就抖没事了。
男人通过解决问题获得满足，他们遇到问题习惯把自己孤立起来，然后focus on 所遇到的问题，这段时间他们对其他事情漠不关心，甚至排斥，直到他们将问题解决了，他们才会重新回到你身边。
女人会觉得有问题你要和我沟通才是，反而这么疏远，是不是不爱我了。
其实这时女人要试着理解，这是我们之间的不同，如果他们没有寻求帮助，就不要去打扰，这是他们的处事方式，女人给予男人充分的信任和空间。
二、关于需求女人渴望被疼爱，男人渴望被需要。
最初的爱的吸引也是来自于此，女人享受被关怀，而男人乐意去给女人保护，这是一种契合。
男人的本质是自私的，之前只要自己赢，可一旦他迷恋上一个女人，他的目标就是双赢，能给自己心爱的女人带来保护和快乐是他最享受的事情。
但要是这个女人让他感觉到无用，挫败，他又会回到自私的状态，不被需要是男人爱情的慢性毒药。
所以女人要做的不是去好好照顾你的男人，而是过好自己的快乐生活，保持捉摸不透的魅力，再偶尔撒娇着告诉他，我需要你。
三、付出与给予女人天性喜欢照顾人，她们会用不停的付出表达爱，她们期待男人明白她们的付出，并得到应有的回报。
而男人天性自私，而且女人过多的照顾反而会使他们觉得女人自己很能干，不需要被照顾，慢慢的他付出的就会越来越少。
《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》读后感
《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》读后感不管是正在热恋的情人，还是共同生活的夫妻，对于男女之间应该如何融洽的相处都是一门深奥的学问。
以前很多年，我都认为这是一门不需要探讨的学科，因为放眼望去，几乎所有人都好像是无师自通，大多数的朋友，都没有专门去学习这方面的知识，没有阅读这方面的书籍，只需要在实践中总结一些经验，就成功的恋爱并且结婚了。
这让我以为这件事是一件很随性、自然的事情，只要真诚对待，就都能顺利成功。
最近读了一本书，叫《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》。
让我们对这个问题，又有了更深层的理解。
我突然想到，那些经过恋爱并且结婚的人，未必都是深谙此道。
当然其中有些确实是经历了种种波折，历经磨难，最后走到一起的。
但是还有一大部分人是在对的时间遇到了对的人，所以他们不需要充分的掌握这项技能，就已经达到了融洽相处的效果。
虽然在日后的夫妻生活中，他们还会遇到这样或那样的问题，但是生活都是有惯性的，对于已经步入婚姻殿堂的人，即使后期遇到了各种矛盾，夫妻双方还是会表现出极大的包容。
这不仅仅是因为目前大多数人们对于离婚这件事还是十分敬畏的，所以为了维持住婚姻的现状，男女双方都愿意为了这段婚姻不断的调整自己和包容对方。
还有一个重要原因，是人们都对现在所处的生活状态有一种安全感，因为现在的生活状态是你最熟悉的状态，如果一旦打破，就意味着要逼自己进入一个未知的新状态，所有人对未知的东西都有一种天生的恐惧感，大多数人会本能的抵触这种未知的选择。
所以即便是大多数人都是经历恋爱最后结婚的成功案例，但是这也并不代表大多数人就都学会了夫妻之间或者男女朋友之间的相处之道。
可能成功的原因有以下几种情况：也许是因为运气很好，一开始就遇到了最合适的对象，两人情投意合，太多的生活习惯和爱好都太吻合了，所以就很容易的产生了感情，经过一段相对平顺的情感经历最终结婚了。
也许是因为大家都是以结婚为目的的人，所以目标明确，两边都觉得自己的岁数已经不允许自己再有过多的选择，可以这么说，当两个都着急结婚的人去谈恋爱，那么成功率会非常高。
《男人来自火星 女人来自金星》读后感
《男人来自火星女人来自金星》读后感婚姻是人一生中最重要的部分之一。
为了爱而结合的两个人却往往因为爱而苦恼，其中的主要原因就是男人和女人对爱的表达方式是不一样的。
即使出于爱而发出的语言到了对方那里却有了不同的理解。
男人和女人天然的不同，就好像说着不同语言的种族一样，相同的一个发音却有着不同的理解。
关于这个在动物界有一个类似的例子，可以帮助我们理解为什么经常会发生误会，这是本文笔者想到的一个例子，书上并没有提到猫和狗这对天生的冤家，之所以他们总是有矛盾就是因为猫和狗的交流方式完全不同造成的。
当狗表示友好的时候会弓起身子摇动尾巴并向对方伸出爪子，而这恰恰是猫表示敌意的方式。
猫表示友好的方式是嗓子发出呼噜呼噜的声音并用舌头舔对方，这对于狗来说是敌意的表现。
这个天然的不同造成了猫狗之间麻烦不断。
有的时候夫妻之间的关系有点类似这种关系。
男人和女人也存在天然的不同，有许多矛盾也是可以认识并且避免的，这就是这本书眼光的独到之处。
作者打了一个很有趣的比喻，好像来自不同的星球一样，男人和女人说的语言虽然每个字都一样但是意思却不一样，而且不仅如此，碰见一件相容的事情，男人和女人的反应和认识也不一样。
这当然是因为男女天生的思维方式不同造成的，这个不同好像大家也都知道，没什么奇怪的。
但是具体起来或者说真正碰见男人和女人因为这些不同而发生矛盾的时候却没人能马上意识到这是我们来自不同的星球造成的，而只会向另外一些方面找原因，比如说认为爱情已经终结了或者对方的道德有问题，这种结论完全无益于夫妻双方感情的稳固和生活的幸福。
我们来看本书中一个经典的例子，譬如，玛丽这天回到家已精疲力尽，他想和丈夫分享她这天的感受。
她说：“工作太多了，我根本没有一点点私人时间。
”汤姆说：“你应该辞职，不必做得那么累，去找一些你喜欢做得。
”玛丽说：“可是我喜欢我的工作，只是他们过于期望我在短时间内改变一切事。
”汤姆说：“别听他们的，只要你能做的就好。
”玛丽说我正是这么做的。
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