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新标准大学英语四综合教程Unit1-6课文及翻译

新标准大学英语四综合教程Unit1-6课文及翻译

If you ask me1If you ask me, real life is not all it's crack‎e d up to be. Twelv‎e years‎at schoo‎l and three‎years‎at unive‎r sity‎, teach‎e rs bangi‎n g on about‎oppor‎t unit‎i es in the big wide world‎beyon‎d our shelt‎e red life as stude‎n ts, and what do I find?2 Try as I might‎to stay cheer‎f ul, all I ever get is hassl‎e, somet‎i mes with peopl‎e (espec‎i ally‎boys, god, when will they grow up?), but mostl‎y with money‎. It's just so expen‎s ive out here! Every‎o ne wants‎a slice‎off you. The Inlan‎d Reven‎u e wants‎to deduc‎t incom‎e tax, the bank manag‎e r wants‎repay‎m ents‎on my stude‎n t loan, the landl‎o rd wants‎the rent, gas, water‎, elect‎r icit‎y and my mobil‎e bills‎keep comin‎g in, and all that's befor‎e I've had anyth‎i ng to eat. And then some brigh‎t spark‎calls‎me out of the blue, askin‎g if I'm inter‎e sted‎in buyin‎g a pensi‎o n. At this rate, I won't even last till the end of the year, let alone‎till I'm 60.3 I didn't reall‎y want to go out to work just yet. I mean, I wasn't a dropo‎u t and I knew I'd have to some day. Accor‎d ing to any numbe‎r of peopl‎e "life's not a picni‎c", "there‎'s no such thing‎as a free lunch‎". But given‎that I'd got a good degre‎e, I thoug‎h t I'd like to go on to get my maste‎r's. Actua‎l ly, I had my eye on the cours‎e at the Londo‎n Schoo‎l of Econo‎m ics (LSE) . Top schoo‎l, very good for my CV. But I talke‎d to my mum about‎it, and she said she could‎n't affor‎d to suppo‎r t me any more. I kind of under‎s tand‎it, and not just becau‎s e my degre‎e is in econo‎m ics. She'd worke‎d hard for 15 years‎to give me an educa‎t ion. My dad wasn't aroun‎d most of the time, and when he was, he didn't have any money‎. He'd spent‎it gambl‎i ng on the dogs or down the pub. So it came to the point‎whenI just agree‎d with Mum, and bowed‎mysel‎f towar‎d s the inevi‎t able‎.4 If you ask me, and despi‎t e every‎t hing‎you hear, fortu‎n atel‎y there‎are some reall‎y nice peopl‎e out there‎. Take Mike, for examp‎l e. When I left unive‎r sity‎, what I thoug‎h t was that my mum would‎feel oblig‎e d to look after‎me if I retur‎n ed home. So I packe‎d up my belon‎g ings‎and went to Londo‎n to get a job. I wante‎d somet‎h ing in finan‎c e and inves‎t ment‎s, becau‎s e you know, maybe‎with a job like that, I could‎use my degre‎e. But by that time, there‎were no jobs left, and I didn't reall‎y want to end up in some borin‎g offic‎e, doing‎photo‎c opie‎s and makin‎g the tea.5 Go anywh‎e re you like in Londo‎n and there‎'s usual‎l y a good pub. The day I reali‎z ed no one in the city was going‎to offer‎me a job, I went into The Salis‎b ury on Leade‎n hall‎Stree‎t for a drink‎and somet‎h ing to eat. Mike the landl‎o rd was at the bar, pouri‎n g pints‎with one hand, makin‎g sandw‎i ches‎with the other‎, and washi‎n g the glass‎e s all at the same time—it's true, he reall‎y did seem to have three‎hands‎. He also seeme‎d to know every‎o ne, and greet‎e d the regul‎a rs by name, getti‎n g their‎drink‎s ready‎with the quest‎i on, "The usual‎today‎, is it?" I thoug‎h t he looke‎d kind of cool, he was doing‎what he did best, servi‎n g thirs‎t y clien‎t s, and no one did it bette‎r. So I went up to him and asked‎him wheth‎e r there‎was a job for me.6 Well, to cut a long story‎short‎, I start‎e d work in the pub one Frida‎y lunch‎time. It was quite‎deman‎d ing work, but I liked‎it. Peopl‎e seeme‎d to find me amusi‎n g and it made me feel bette‎r too. There‎was one middl‎e-aged regul‎a r in a suit who alway‎s had a half of bitte‎r and a ham and pickl‎e sandw‎i ch, with the crust‎s cut off. When I saw Tony comin‎g, I tried‎to have his lunch‎ready‎for him even befor‎e he asked‎. He was anoth‎e r one of those‎reall‎y nice peopl‎e.7 If you ask me, spend‎i ng money‎when you don't have any is dead easy. I began‎to think‎about‎how I'd spend‎my first‎month‎'s wages‎. The flat where‎I was stayi‎n g was expen‎s ive, and I just about‎had enoug‎h to cover‎the first‎month‎'s subst‎a ntia‎l bills‎. But I calcu‎l ated‎that there‎'d be just enoug‎h money‎over to treat‎mysel‎f to somet‎h ing. Why not get a CD or maybe‎a plant‎to cheer‎up the flat? I thoug‎h t.8 It was my birth‎d ay on pay day. Apart‎from Mike and Tony, I didn't have any frien‎d s in Londo‎n. Seein‎g that I didn't have a boyfr‎i end eithe‎r, you can under‎s tand‎why I began‎to feel sorry‎for mysel‎f. So I order‎e d mysel‎f some flowe‎r s, and asked‎them to be sent with a littl‎e card, sayin‎g "With all my love Anon." The highl‎i ght of my birth‎d ay would‎be the confu‎s ed look on the flori‎s t's eyes when he deliv‎e red them.9 Later‎that week, Tony came in as usual‎and sat down at the bar. "What's wrong‎with you? Where‎'s that smile‎gone today‎?" I talke‎d to him about‎... well, about‎prett‎y well every‎t hing‎, money‎, the maste‎r's, my birth‎d ay, the lot. He sympa‎t hize‎d with me.10 Tony got up from his stool‎, and went over to talk to some of the other‎s. Remem‎b er: The Salis‎b ury is right‎in the heart‎of the city, so all the custo‎m ers were in banki‎n g or insur‎a nce or the stock‎marke‎t. Next day he turne‎d up with chequ‎e s to the value‎of £20,000. "This is a loan for you to set up your busin‎e ss. The only colla‎t eral‎you have is my trust‎in you that one day, you'll pay us back—if you can. And if you can't, too bad, that's the finan‎c e busin‎e ss for you. But I think‎you will."11 I didn't say anyth‎i ng for fear that I was going‎to cry. What were the odds on anyon‎e being‎so nice?12 And the flowe‎r s? I redir‎e cted‎them to my mum, and they arriv‎e d for her on my birth‎d ay. She deser‎v ed them, don't you think‎?13 If you ask me, looki‎n g back after‎all these‎years‎, you only need one or two break‎s in your life to succe‎e d. The fact that the rest is hard work doesn‎'t matte‎r, it's still‎worth‎it.14 After‎a year worki‎n g at The Salis‎b ury, I got a place‎at the LSE, did my maste‎r's and found‎a job in an inves‎t ment‎bank. I inves‎t ed the £20,000, and sold out befor‎e the 2008 crash‎. I paid back Tony and the other‎inves‎t ors, with ten per cent annua‎l inter‎e st, and set up my own firm. It excee‎d ed all my expec‎t atio‎n s and is still‎a thriv‎i ng busin‎e ss.15 Tony wrote‎me a thank‎-you note. He'd been in a car accid‎e nt, and could‎n't walk. The money‎I paid back would‎allow‎him to adapt‎his house‎so he could‎move aroun‎d it in his wheel‎c hair‎. This is what he wrote‎:16 "Thirt‎y-five years‎in banki‎n g, and I've never‎made a bette‎r inves‎t ment‎than the loan to you. You've repai‎d the money‎with inter‎e st, and my trust‎in you and your hones‎t y 100-fold. If you ask me, inves‎t ing in peopl‎e gives‎the best retur‎n you can ever hope for."17 If you ask me, he's right‎. What do you think‎?依我看依我看,现实生活并‎没有人们想‎象的那么好‎。

新标准大学英语第四册第1课

新标准大学英语第四册第1课
11 “the main job for the parents is to be there because if theystart advising them what to do, that is when the conflict starts.If you have contacts, by all means use those,”she said.“
12 paying for careerconsultations, train fares tointerviews or books are good things; being too pushy is not.But while parents should be wary of becoming too soft, Lindenfield advises them to tread踩sympathetically after a job setback for a few days or even weeks–depending on the scale of the knock.After that the son or daughter needs to be nudged推动firmlybackinto the saddle.
10. Gael Lindenfield, a psychotherapist and the author of the Emotional Healing Strategy, says that the Goodwin parents have struck exactly the right note.The transition from university to a job is tough for parents and children: Crucially they must balance being positive and understanding with not making lifheir offspring.

新标准大学英语第四册unit1教案

新标准大学英语第四册unit1教案

Unit oneActive reading 1Teaching objectivesDifferent types of degrees ( bachelors, masters, doctors)Characteristics of Generation X and Generation Y/GruntHighlighting different aspects of a problemResumeWarming-up activity1.Read the passage in activity 1 and work in groups to discuss the topic.2.Based on your experience and knowledge, discuss the differences of a good job and a job. Useful expressions & language pointsgalvanize vt.Shock or affect someone enough to produce a strong and immediate reaction使振奋;刺激;使(某人)震惊或激动(并采取行动). His speech yesterday galvanized many workers into action.他昨天的演讲激励不少工人行动起来了。

fraught adj.very worried and with a lot of problems 忧虑的;焦虑不安的. 1. After his speech, there was a fraught silence.他发言后,出现了一阵令人焦虑不安的沉默。

2. She sounded a bit fraught. 她听上去有点儿忧心忡忡。

clutch vt.hold sb. or sth. firmly 紧抓;紧握. 1. The mother clutched her baby in her arms.母亲紧紧地把婴儿抱在怀里。

新标准大学英语4 U1

新标准大学英语4 U1

Unit1Reading and interpreting8 Answer the questions.1 “Will he ever get a job?” Who is asking this question? What mood does it express?The parents are asking this because the paragraph is addressed to parents (earlier it says “your graduate son”). The mood seems to express patience or resignation because the word “ever” suggests that getting a job will take a long time.2 Who describes Generation Y as “rebels without a cause”? Is ita fair description?This is the writer’s description to indicate that t his generation is rebelling against parents or society,but they have nothing particular to rebel against. This doesn’t seem very fair because the students are trying to find work –it is just that they don’t like their parents nagging them. So they are a bit rebellious against their parents, but no more than that.3 Jack “walked into the university careers service and straight back out again”. What does this suggest about Jack’s character? It suggests that Jack is not very determined. As soon as he saw the queue he left without waiting and without trying to ask about jobs or careers.4 Jack spent the summer “hiding”. Hiding from what? Why are quotation marks used?Probably this means he was hiding from the world of work, staying at home and not looking for a job.The quotation marks tell us that he wasn’t literally hiding, he just spent a lot of time at home.5 How is Mrs Goodwin’s point of view affected by her own personal experience?In one way her experience hasn’t affected her attitude: She left school and went immediately to a job (without going to university) and has been working full-time since then and yet she is sympathetic and takes a soft line.6 How is Lindenfield’s point of view affected by her own personal experience?Her personal experience was that she worked in a bar before finding her first proper job as an aerial photographic assistant. So she says such work is a great networking opportunity. If new graduates are good at such work and bright, cheerful and polite, they will soon be promoted. Her personal experience thus reflects – or perhaps has created – her point of view.7 What would the first two paragraphs have focused on if they had been presented from the point of view of the students ratherthan the parents?The first two paragraphs would have focused on the need for the new graduates to rest for a bit after their hard studies. It is OK for students to relax with the TV or to socialize with friends for a while, then they can start a serious search for employment after that.9 Answer the questions.1 What is the focus of each section of the story?• The first part is the background before the story really begins. It focuses on the writer’s financialproblems after graduation and on her need to work since her family cannot support her.• The second part focuses on nice people who help the writer, mainly on Mike who gives her a job in a pub.• In the third part, the focus is on the writer’s sad feelings on her birthday and how she tells Tony her troubles. He talks to some friends and gets her a £20,000 loan to set up a business.• In the fourth part, the writer is looking back some years later. She has her masters degree and has a job in an investment bank and has used the loan to set up her own company. The focus is on the twist in the story, where the situation is reversed: Tony is disabled after an accident and needs the repayment of the loan toadapt his house for his disability.• The last two main sentences are also introduced by “If you ask me,” This is a coda (a finishing phrase or two) about investing in people.2 How does the time context change from one section to the next?The first section gives the background before the writer finds a job, in the past before the time of the story. The second section is in the past, showing how she ot a job. The third section, still in the past, shows the particular event of how she got a lucky break through Tony’s help. In the fourth section, the time is in the present, with the writer looking back after some years. She tells us what happened and her success after she had received Tony’s loan.3 How much time do you think has elapsed between the third and the final section?At least two years have passed because she worked in the pub for one year, then studied for her master’s for another year, and then repaid the loan. If you allow time for her investment to make enough money to repay the loan with interest and for the writer to have enough money left to set up a firm, then it could be several further years, say between five and ten yearsaltogether, but as she says “it is still a thriving business”, it is probably ten or fifteen years later or even more.4 How is the relationship between the writer and Tony reversed at the end of the story?When they first meet Tony is working successfully in banking, while the writer is in financial difficulty and in need of money. At the end of the story this situation is reversed: He is disabled and in need of money, while she has become financially successful. The successful one helps the other in both parts of the story.5 What is the message presented at the end of the story?The message is that Tony and the writer both say that investing in people gives the best return on an investment that you could hope for. This is their experience, but the writer asks for the readers’ opinion about this. The final question leaves an open answer and we may disagree if this is not our experience。

新大学英语第四册电子教案unit 1

新大学英语第四册电子教案unit 1
Interview at least five of your classmates on their ideas of being green.
1. When you leave a room, do you turn off electrical appliances and lights?
2. How many pieces of tissue do you use each day?
Carbon Footprint
Ranking
UNIT 1
A Greener Future
Part Two
Part One
Warming Up
2 Presenting your understanding
Share opinions with your classmates.
Activity 1 Use the following questionnaire to find out how green you are.
8. Do you purchase items made from recycled materials?
9. Do you look for the ENERGY STAR® logo when buying electronics such as TVs, CD players, DVD players, and computers?
10. What do you think we should do to build a green campus?
3. Do you minimize the use of air conditioning and heating if you can?
4. While shaving or brushing teeth do you let the water run?

新标准大学英语综合教程4教师用书unit1课文翻译

新标准大学英语综合教程4教师用书unit1课文翻译

新标准大学英语综合教程4教师用书unit1课文翻译新标准大学英语综合教程4教师用书unit1课文翻译unit1Translation of the passagesActive reading (1)大学毕业找工作的第一要义:别躺在沙发上做梦今年夏天,超过65 万的大学生毕业离校,其中有许多人根本不知道怎么找工作。

在当今金融危机的背景下,做父母的该如何激励他们?七月,你看着21 岁英俊的儿子穿上学士袍,戴上四方帽,骄傲地握着优等学士学位证书,拍毕业照。

这时,记忆中每年支付几千英镑,好让儿子吃好、能参加奇特聚会的印象开始消退。

总算熬到头了。

等到暑假快要结束,全国各地的学生正在为新学期做准备的时候,你发现大学毕业的儿子还歪躺在沙发上看电视。

他只是偶尔走开去发短信,浏览社交网站Facebook,去酒吧喝酒。

这位前?千禧一代?的后裔一夜之间变成了哼哼一代的成员。

他能找到工作吗?这就是成千上万家庭所面临的景象:今年夏天,超过65 万大学生毕业,在当今金融危机的背景下他们中的大多数人不知道自己下一步该做什么。

父母只会唠叨,而儿女们则毫无缘由地变成了叛逆者,他们知道自己该找份工作,但却不知道如何去找。

来自米德尔塞克斯郡的杰克·古德温今年夏天从诺丁汉大学政治学系毕业,获得二级一等荣誉学士学位。

他走进大学就业服务中心,又径直走了出来,因为他看见很多人在那里排长队。

跟他一起住的另外5 个男孩也都跟他一样,进去又出来了。

找工作的压力不大,虽然他所认识的大多数女生都有更清晰的计划。

他说:?我申请政治学研究工作,但被拒了。

他们给的年薪是1 万8 千镑,交完房租后所剩无几,也就够买一罐煮豆子,可他们还要有研究经历或硕士学位的人。

然后我又申请了公务员速升计划,并通过了笔试。

但在面试时,他们说我‘太冷漠’了,谈吐‘太像专家治国国论者’。

我觉得自己不可能那样,但我显然就是那样的。

?打那以后他整个夏天都在?躲?。

他能够轻松复述《交通警察》中的若干片段,他白天看电视的时间太多,已经到了影响健康的地步。

新标准大学英语综合教程4课后答案unit1.doc

新标准大学英语综合教程4课后答案unit1.doc

新标准大学英语综合教程4课后答案unit1.doc新标准大学英语综合教程4课后答案unit1Unit1Active reading (1)3 Match the words in the box with their definitions.1.proceed2.transition3.detached4.upcoming5.slump6.revert7.recount4 Complete the paragraph with the correct form of the words in Activity 3.(1)transition(2)slumped(3)proceed(4)recounting(5)detached(6)upcoming(7)revert5 Replace the underlined words with the correct form of the words in the box. You may need to makeother changes.1 I went to a mixed-ability secondary school just outside London. (comprehensive)2 I got stopped by a policeman who asked to see my driving licence. (cop)3 Have you seen this beautiful from the air view of Oxford? (aerial)4 Isabel tightly her bag as she walked down the corridor towards the office. (clutched)5 You should speak to Toby; he’s an support er of flexible working hours. (advocate)6 I hurt my leg badly a couple of months ago, and it still hasn’t got better co mpletely. (healed)6 Answer the questions about the words.B A A AB7 Answer the questions about the phrases.B B A A A A A AActive reading (2)4 Match the words in the box with their definitions.1.amusing2.fortunately3.l oan4.d educt5.highlight6.sympathize7.d emanding5 Complete the conversation with the correct form of the words in Activity 4.(1) sympathize(2) fortunately(3) loan(4) demanding.(5) amusing(6) highlight(7) deducted6 Replace the underlined words with the correct form of the words in the box.(1) belongings (2) dropouts (3) gamble (4) exceeded (5) odds(6) has thrived (7) honesty7 Answer the questions about the words and expressions.B B A A B B A A ALanguage in useword formation: compound nouns1 Write the compound nouns which mean:1 a degree which is awarded a first class (a first-class degree)2 work in a hospital (hospital work)3 a ticket for a plane journey (a plane ticket)4 a discount for students (a student discount)5 a pass which allows you to travel on buses (a bus pass)6 a room where an interview is held (an interview room)7 a period spent in training (a training period)2 Write the noun phrases which mean:1 a career which is rewarding from the financial point of view(a financially rewarding career)2 legislation which has been introduced recently (recently introduced legislation)3 instructions which are more complex than usual (unusually complex instructions)4 an institution which is orientated towards academic (academically orientated work)5 work which makes physical demands on you (physically demanding work)6 information which has the potential to be important (potentially important information)7 candidates who have been selected after a careful procedure (carefully selected candidates)8 a coursebook in which everything has been plannedbeautifully (a beautifully planned textbook)3 Rewrite the sentences using try as …might .1 I’m trying to fill this last page, but I just can’t think of anything.Try as I might to fill this last page, I just can’t think of anything.2 I try to be friendly with Marta, but she doesn’t seem to respond.Try as I might to be friendly with Marta, she doesn’t seem to respond.3 I try hard to get to sleep, but I can’t help thinking about my family.Try as I might to get to sleep, I can’t help thinking about my family.4 He just doesn’t seem to get the promotion he deserves, even though he keeps trying. Try as he might, he just doesn’t seem to get the promotion he deserves. / Try as he might to get thepromotion he deserves, he just d oesn’t seem to get it.5 I keep trying to remember her name, but my mind is a blank.Try as I might to remember her name, my mind is a blank.4 Rewrite the sentences using given that …1 Since I know several languages, I thought I would look for work abroad.Given that I know several languages, I thought I would look for work abroad.2 Xiao Li has the best qualifications, so she should get the job.Given that Xiao Li has the best qualifications, she should getthe job.3 Since we’re all here, I th ink i t would be a good idea to get down to some work. Given that we’re all here, I think it would be a good idea to get down to some work.4 Since i t’s rather late, I think we should leave this last task until tomorrow.Given that it’s rather late, I thi nk we s hould leave this last task until tomorrow.5 Rewrite the sentences using clauses introduced by than .1 She’s experienced at giving advice. I’m more experienced.She’s less experienced at giving advice than I am. / I’m more experienced at giving advice than she is.2 You eat too much chocolate. It isn’t good for you.You eat too much chocolate than is good for you.3 She worked very hard. Most part-timers don’t work so hard.She worked harder than most part-timers do.4 You have arrived late too man y time s. That isn’t acceptable.You have arrived late more times than is acceptable.5 I don’t think you should have given so much personal information. It isn’t wise.I think you have given more personal information than is wise.7 Translate the paragraphs into Chinese.依我看,现实生活与人们想象的不一样。

新标准大学英语综合教程4课后翻译U1--U8

新标准大学英语综合教程4课后翻译U1--U8

第四册Unit 1If you ask me, real life is not all it's cracked up to be. Twelve years at school and three years at university, teachers banging on about opportunities in the big wide world beyond our sheltered life as students, and what do I find?Try as I might to stay cheerful, all I ever get is hassle, sometimes with people (especially boys, god, when will they grow up?), but mostly with money. It's just so expensive out here! Everyone wants a slice off you. The Inland Revenue wants to deduct income tax, the bank manager wants repayments on my student loan, the landlord wants the rent, gas, water, electricity and my mobile bills keep coming in, and all that's before I've had anything to eat. And then some bright spark calls me out of the blue, asking if I'm interested in buying a pension. At this rate, I won't even last till the end of the year, let alone till I'm 60.依我看,现实生活与人们想象的不一样。

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5.“I applied for a job as a political researcher, but got turned down,”he says.“they were paying £18,000, doesn’t buy you much more than a tin of beans after rent, but they wanted people with experience or master’s degrees.ThenIapplied for the Civil Service fast stream. I passed the exam, but at the interviews they accused me of being‘too detached”and talking in language that was‘too technocratic’, whichIdidn’t think possible, butobviouslyit is.”
But a lot of parents get too soft.Put limits on how much money you give them, ask them to pay rent or contribute to the care of the house or the pets.Carry on life asnormaland don’t allow them to abuse your bank account or sap your reserves of emotional energy.”
2 As the summer break comes to a close and students across the country prepare for the start of a new term,you find that your graduate son is still spending his days slumped掉落in front of the television, broken only by texting, Facebook and visits to the pub.This former scion幼芽of Generation Y has morphed改变overnight into a member ofGeneratingGrunt.Will he ever get a job?
9.“They’ve gotto grow up at some point.We’ve finished paying for university, so a little bit of help back is good,”she says.“TheSouthAmerica trip is the cutoff point.Whenhe comes back there’ll be Christmas work if nothing else.”
6.Sincethen he has spent the summer“hiding”.He can recount several episodes ofTraffic Copsand has seen more daytime television than is healthy.He talks to his friends about his aimless days and finds that most are in the same boat.One has been forced out to stackshelvesbyhis parents.For the rest it is 9-to-5“chilling”before heading to the pub.So how about working behind the bar, to pay for those drinks“Idon’t want to do bar work.Iwent to a comprehensive andIworkedmy backside off to go to a good university, whereIworked really hard to get a gooddegree,”he says.“NowI’m back at the same stage as those friends who didn’t go to uni at all, who are pulling pints and doing dead-end jobs.Ifeel thatI’ve come full circle.”
4.JackGoodwin, from Middlesex, graduated with a 2:1 inpolitics fromNottinghamthis summer.He walked into the university careers service and straight back out again; there was a big queue.He lived with five other boys all of whom did the same.There was no pressure to find a job, even though most of the girls he knew had a clearer plan.
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Looking for a job after university?
First, get off the sofa
More than 650,000 students left university this summer and many have no idea about the way to get a job.How tough shin these financially fraught担心的,忧虑的times?
10. Gael Lindenfield, a psychotherapist and the author of the Emotional Healing Strategy, says that the Goodwin parents have struck exactly the right note.The transition from university to a job is tough for parents and children: Crucially they must balance being positive and understanding with not making life too comfortable for their offspring.
3.Thisis the scenario情节facing thousands of families.More than 650,000 students left university this summer and most in these financially testing times have no idea what to do next.Parents revert to回复nagging; sons and daughters become rebels without a cause, aware that they need to get a job, but not sure how.
12 paying for careerconsultations, train fares to interviews or books are good things; being too pushy is not.But while parents should be wary of becoming too soft, Lindenfield advises them to tread踩sympathetically after a job setback for a few days or even weeks–depending on the scale of the knock.After that the son or daughter needs to be nudged推动firmlybackinto the saddle.
7. Jacqueling Goodwin, his mother, defends him.She insists that he has tried to get a job, but having worked full-time since leaving school herself, she and her husband find it tricky to advise him on how to proceed.“Ihave always had to work,”she says.“It’sdifficult because when you have a degree, it opens new doors for you, or you’d like to think that it does.”
11 “the main job for the parents is to be there because if theystart advising them what to do, that is when the conflict starts.If you have contacts, by all means use those,”she said.“
1InJuly, you looked on as your handsome 21-year-old son, dressed in gown and mortarboard,proudlyclutched hishonorsdegree for his graduation photo.Those memories of forking out不情愿掏出thousands of pounds a year so that he could eat well and go to the oddpartybegan to fade.Until now.
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