桑德伯格TED演讲
TED演讲稿中英文3分钟
yang lan: the generation thats remaking china the night before i was heading for scotland, i was invited to host the final ofchinas got talent show in shanghai with the 80,000 live audience in the stadium. guesswho was the performing guest?susan boyle. and i told her, im going to scotland thenext day. she sang beautifully, and she even managed to say a few words in chinese.[chinese]so its not like hello or thank you, that ordinary stuff. it means green onionfor free. why did she say that? because it was a line from our chinese parallel susanboyle -- a 50-some year-old woman, a vegetable vendor in shanghai, who loves singingwestern opera, but she didnt understand any english or french or italian, so shemanaged to fill in the lyrics with vegetable names in chinese. (laughter) and thelast sentence of nessun dorma that she was singing in the stadium was green onionfor free. so[as] susan boyle was saying that, 80,000 live audience sang together. that washilarious.so i guess both susan boyle and this vegetable vendor in shanghai belonged tootherness. they were the least expected to be successful in the business calledentertainment, yet their courage and talent brought them through. and a show and aplatform gave them the stage to realize their dreams. well, being different is notthat difficult. we are all different from different perspectives. but i think beingdifferent is good, because you present a different point of view. you may have thechance to make a difference. my generation has been very fortunate to witness and participate in the historictransformation of china that has made so many changes in the past 20, 30 years. iremember that in the year of 1990,when i was graduating from college, i was applyingfor a job in the sales department of the first five-star hotel in beijing, great wallsheraton -- its still there. so after being interrogated by this japanese managerfor a half an hour, he finally said, so, miss yang, do you have any questions to askme?i summoned my courage and poise and said,yes, but could you let me know, whatactually do you sell? i didnt have a clue what a sales department was about in afive-star hotel. that was the first day i set my foot in a five-star hotel. my life, and i feel proud of that. but then we are also so fortunate to witnessthe transformation of the whole country. i was in beijings bidding for the olympicgames. i was representing the shanghai expo. i saw china embracing the world and viceversa. but then sometimes im thinking, what are todays young generation up to? howare they different, and what are the differences they are going to make to shape thefuture of china, or at large, the world? so making a living is not that easy for young people. college graduates are notin short supply.in urban areas, college graduates find the starting salary is about 400 u.s. dollarsa month, while the average rent is above $500. so what do they do? they have to sharespace -- squeezed in very limited space to save money -- and they call themselvestribe of ants. and for those who are ready to get married and buy their apartment,they figured out they have to work for 30 to 40 years to afford their first apartment.that ratio in americawould only cost a couple five years to earn, but in china its30 to 40 years with the skyrocketing real estate price. so through some of the hottest topics on microblogging, we can see what youngpeople care most about. social justice and government accountability runs the firstin what they demand.for the past decade or so, a massive urbanization and developmenthave let us witness a lot of reports on the forced demolition of private property.andit has aroused huge anger and frustrationamong our young generation. sometimes peopleget killed, and sometimes people set themselves on fire to protest. so when theseincidents are reported more and more frequently on the internet,people cry for thegovernment to take actions to stop this. so the good news is that earlier this year, the state council passed a newregulation on house requisition and demolition and passed the right to order forceddemolition from local governments to the court. similarly, many other issues concerning public safety is a hot topicon the internet. we heard about polluted air, polluted water, poisoned food. and guesswhat, we have faked beef. they have sorts of ingredients that you brush on a pieceof chicken or fish, and it turns it to look like beef.and then lately, people arevery concerned about cooking oil, because thousands of people have been found[refining] cooking oil from restaurant slop. so all these things have aroused a hugeoutcry from the internet. and fortunately, we have seen the government respondingmore timely and also more frequently to the public concerns. while young people seem to be very sure about their participation in publicpolicy-making, but sometimes theyre a little bit lost in terms of what they want fortheir personal life. china is soon to pass the u.s. as the number one market for luxurybrands -- thats not including the chinese expenditures in europe and elsewhere. butyou know what, half of those consumers are earning a salary below 2,000 u.s. dollars.theyre not rich at all. theyre taking those bags and clothes as a sense of identityand social status. and this is a girl explicitly saying on a tv dating show that shewould rather cry in a bmw than smile on a bicycle.but of course, we do have youngpeople who would still prefer to smile, whether in a bmw or [on] a bicycle. so happiness is the most popular word we have heard through the past two years.happiness is not only related to personal experiences and personal values, but also,its about the environment. people are thinking about the following questions: arewe going to sacrifice our environment further to produce higher gdp? how are we goingto perform our social and political reform to keep pace with economic growth, to keepsustainability and stability? and also, how capable is the systemof self-correctnessto keep more people contentwith all sorts of friction going on at the same time?iguess these are the questions people are going to answer. and our younger generationare going to transform this country while at the same time being transformedthemselves.thank you very much.杨澜ted演讲：重塑中国的一代中文演讲稿在来爱尔兰的前一晚，我应邀主持了中国达人秀在上海的体育场和八万现场观众。
ted十大著名演讲稿
ted十大著名演讲稿TED 演讲以其思想的深度、创新的观点和精彩的表达，吸引了全球无数观众。
在众多优秀的TED 演讲中，有一些演讲稿因其独特的视角、深刻的洞察和强烈的感染力，成为了经典之作。
首先，不得不提的是肯·罗宾逊（Ken Robinson）的《学校扼杀创造力？》。
在这个演讲中，肯·罗宾逊以幽默风趣的语言，犀利地指出了当前教育体制中对创造力的忽视和压抑。
他通过生动的案例和引人深思的观点，呼吁教育要重视培养学生的创造力，而不是仅仅追求标准化的成绩。
这个演讲不仅让人们对教育的本质有了新的思考，也激发了许多教育改革的尝试。
另一个令人印象深刻的演讲是西蒙·斯涅克（Simon Sinek）的《伟大的领袖如何激励行动》。
西蒙·斯涅克提出了“黄金圈法则”，即从“为什么”开始，而不是“是什么”或“怎么做”。
他以苹果、马丁·路德·金等为例，阐述了那些具有强大影响力的领导者和组织，都是从明确自己的“为什么”出发，从而能够激励人们追随并采取行动。
这个演讲为商业领袖和个人提供了一个全新的思考框架，帮助他们更好地理解如何激发团队的热情和忠诚度。
艾米·卡迪（Amy Cuddy）的《肢体语言塑造你自己》也是备受赞誉的一篇演讲稿。
她通过研究发现，肢体语言不仅反映了我们的内心状态，还能够反过来影响我们的心态和表现。
艾米·卡迪鼓励人们采用“高能量姿势”，来增强自信和应对压力的能力。
这个演讲为人们提供了一种简单而有效的自我提升方法，让我们意识到自身的肢体语言所蕴含的巨大力量。
布琳·布朗（Brené Brown）的《脆弱的力量》则深入探讨了人类内心深处的脆弱。
她勇敢地分享了自己的研究经历和个人故事，指出脆弱并不是弱点，而是我们建立连接、展现真实自我和拥有勇气的关键。
这个演讲让人们对脆弱有了全新的认识，也给予了人们接纳自己和他人的勇气。
FacebookCOO桑德伯格毕业演讲：失去一生所爱，让我变得更加坚强
FacebookCOO桑德伯格毕业演讲：失去一生所爱，让我变得更加坚强以下为Facebook首席运营官雪莉·桑德伯格（Sheryl Sandberg）2017年5月12日在弗吉尼亚理工学院毕业典礼上的演讲。
桑兹校长，尊敬的教师，自豪的父母，忠实的朋友，年轻的兄弟姐妹们……祝贺你们。
最重要的是，祝贺弗吉尼亚理工学院（Virginia Tech）2017届的毕业生们！我很荣幸来到这里，这个旧金山夏日让人备感亲切，一如任何名字中带有“Tech”的事物。
今天，你们作为2017届的毕业生，我为你们感到激动。
为所有前来为你们加油鼓气的人感到激动。
从你踏进校门的那天起，他们便鞭策着你，帮你抹去泪水，陪你开怀大笑，直到今天。
让我们向他们表达衷心的感谢。
毕业演讲往往是单方面的。
演讲者，也就是我，传授自己得来不易的人生经验。
毕业生，也就是你们，坐在雨中，体贴地倾听。
然后，你们把帽子扔向空中，拥抱朋友，让父母拍上一大堆照片——然后开始精彩的人生……也许顺道去趟Sharkey’s餐馆，走之前再来一盘鸡翅。
今天会不太一样，我不讲大家不知道的。
我想讲讲弗吉尼亚理工学院社群再清楚不过的。
今天，我想谈谈韧劲。
这所大学有很多知名的东西。
你们的善良与正派，你们的学术成就，你们根深蒂固的校园精神。
我有很多时间都在跟大学打交道，虽是工作需要，但也是因为我想重温双十年华。
谈起自己的母校时，很少有人像霍奇谈论弗吉尼亚理工那样。
那种骄傲与团结，那种深深的认同感……只要问一个问题就可以证明。
霍奇是什么？（我就是！）在美国弗吉尼亚理工学院是一种吉祥物(也可代指该学院学生)，也代表了学院的一种永不服输的精神这就是了。
你们也许没有意识到，在霍奇精神的鼓舞下，你们的韧劲也日益增强。
近两年来，我都在研究韧劲这个东西，因为我经历了一件事，它所要求我具备的，是以前的我自认为做不到的。
两年零十一天前，我的丈夫大卫突然意外离世。
有时候，这些话我至今仍难以启齿，因为我到现在还是不太能接受那个现实。
桑德伯格ted演讲稿
桑德伯格ted演讲稿谢乐尔桑德伯格是出色的女性领导，她是facebook 首席运营官，她在TED演讲中发表题为《为什么女性领导太少》的演讲稿，下面是这篇桑德伯格ted演讲稿中文版及英文版桑德伯格ted演讲稿中文版今天在座的各位，我们先承认我们是幸运的。
我们没有生活在我们母亲和我们祖母生活过的那个世界，在那时女性的职业选择是非常有限的。
今天在座的各位，大多数人成长于一个女性有基本公民权的世界。
令人惊讶地是，我们还生活在一个有些女性还没有这些权利的世界。
但除上所述，我们还有一个问题，它是一个实际问题。
这问题是：在世界各地，女性没达到任何职业的高管职位。
这些数据很清楚地告诉我们这实情。
190个国家元首里，九位是女性领导。
在世界上议会的总人数中， 13%是女性议员。
在公司部门，女性占据高位， C级职位，董事会席位高管职位比例占15%，16%。
自从20XX年起这数据没变化过有下降趋势。
即使在非营利的行业，我们有时认为这一行业是被更多女性所领导的，女性领导人占20%。
我们还面临着另一个问题，就是女性在职业成功和个人价值实现中所面临的艰难选择。
美国最近一个研究表明，已婚高管人员，三分之二的已婚男性高管人员有孩子只有三分之一的已婚女性高管人员有孩子。
几年前，我在纽约，出席一个协议，在那种别致的纽约私募投资办事处中的一个你能想象到的。
我在这个大约有3小时的会议上，过了2小时，有个间歇休息，所有人都站起来，这会议组织者开始显得的确很尴尬。
我意识到他不知道在他办公室哪里是女洗手间。
所以我开始寻找移动厕所，盘算他们刚搬进来，但我没有看到任何移动厕所。
然后我说，你是刚搬到这办公室吗? 他说，不是，我们在这儿已经有一年了。
我说，你能否告诉我这一年来，我是唯一一个来这间办公室的女性吗? 他看着我，说到，是的。
或者说你可能是唯一一个要上女性洗手间。
(笑声)所以问题是，我们该怎样解决这样的尴尬? 我们怎样改变这些高管职位的比例? 我们怎样使这个变得不同? 我首先想说，我谈这个女性就职因为我的确认为我们得找到答案。
SherylSandberg桑德伯格在2012年哈佛毕业典礼上的演讲
SherylSandberg桑德伯格在2012年哈佛毕业典礼上的演讲•雪莉·桑德伯格（Sheryl Sandberg），1969年出生于华盛顿，2011年41岁，Facebook首席运营官，2011福布斯权势女性榜排名第5位。
2008年3月，正当Facebook从一家受到广泛关注的创业公司向一家互联网巨头迈进时，桑德伯格从谷歌跳槽至这家社交网站。
她负责Facebook的销售、营销、收购、合作、人士、公共政策和联络事宜，使该网站CEO马克·扎克伯格（Mark Zuckerberg）可以专注于Facebook的设计和新功能。
雪莉·桑德伯格给此家初出茅庐的新兴企业带来了难得的成熟气息，帮助Facebook从一家热门创业公司走向互联网世界的主宰。
在她的努力下，Facebook克服用户隐私问题的困扰，在全世界获得了5亿以上的用户，成为最重要的互联网企业之一。
•雪莉·桑德伯格（Sheryl Sandberg），1969年出生于华盛顿，2011年41岁，Facebook首席运营官，2011福布斯权势女性榜排名第5位。
2008年3月，正当Facebook从一家受到广泛关注的创业公司向一家互联网巨头迈进时，桑德伯格从谷歌跳槽至这家社交网站。
她负责Facebook的销售、营销、收购、合作、人士、公共政策和联络事宜，使该网站CEO马克·扎克伯格（Mark Zuckerberg）可以专注于Facebook的设计和新功能。
雪莉·桑德伯格给此家初出茅庐的新兴企业带来了难得的成熟气息，帮助Facebook从一家热门创业公司走向互联网世界的主宰。
在她的努力下，Facebook克服用户隐私问题的困扰，在全世界获得了5亿以上的用户，成为最重要的互联网企业之一。
文本：Sheryl Sandberg’s inspiring commencement speech atHarvard 2012 Class脸谱网首席运营官雪莉桑德博格在哈佛商学院2012届毕业典礼上的演讲It’s an honor to be here today to address HBS’s distinguished faculty, proud parents, patient guests, and most importantly the class of 2012. Today was supposed to be a day of unbridled celebration, and I know that’s no longer true. I j oin all of you in grieving for your classmate. I know there no way make this better although sadness. Today still marks a distinct and impressive achievement for this class, so please join me in giving our warmest congratulations to the class of 2012.When Dean Nohria asked me to speak here today, I thought, come talk to a group of people way younger and cooler than I am? I can do that, I do that every day, I like being surrounded by young people except when they say to me, What was it like being in college without the internet, or worse, Sheryl, can you come here, we need to see what old people think of this feature.When I was a student here 17 years ago, I studied social marketing with professor Kash Rangan, and one of the many examples Kash used to explain the concept of social marketing was the lack of organ donors in this country, which kills 18 people every single day. Earlier this month, Facebook launched a tool to support organ donations, something that stems directly from Kash’s work. Kash is here, we are all grateful for your dedication.So, it wasn’t really that long ago when I was sitting where you are, but the world has changed an awful lot. My section,section B, tried to have HBS’s first online class. We had to use an AOL chat room and dial up service (your parents can explain to you later what dialogue is later). We had to pass out a list of screen names, because it was unthinkable to put your real name on the internet. And it never worked. It kept crashing…the world wasn’t set up for 90 people to communicate at once on line. But for a few brief moments though, we glimpsed the future, a future where technology would power who we are and connect us to our real colleagues, our real family, our real friends.It used to be that in order to reach more people than you could talk to in a day, you had to be rich and famous and powerful, be a celebrity, a politician, a CEO, but that’s not true today. Now ordinary people have voice, not just those of us lucky to go to HBS, but anyone with access to Facebook, to Twitter, a mobile phone. This is disrupting traditional power structures and leveling traditional hierarchy. Voice and power are shifting from institutions to individuals, from the historically powerful to the historically powerless, and all of this is happening so much faster than I could have imagined when I was sitting where you are today and Mark Zuckerberg was 11 years old.ONE WOMAN CEO LOOKED AT ME AND SAID ‘WE WOULDN’T EVEN THINK ABOUT HIRING SOMEONE LIKE YOU’As the world becomes more connected and less hierarchical, traditional career paths are shifting as well. In 2001, after working in the government, I moved out to Silicon Valley to try finding a job. My timing wasn’t really that good. The bubble had crashed, small companies were closing, big companies were laying people off. One woman CEO looked at me and said, we wouldn’t eventhink about hiring someone like you.After a while I had a few offers and I had to make a decision, so what did I do? I am MBA trained, so I made a spreadsheet. I listed my jobs in the columns and my criteria in the rows, and compared the companies and the missions and the roles. One of the jobs on that sheet was to become Google’s first business unit general manager, which sounds good now, but at the time no one thought consumer internet companies could ever make money. I was not sure there was actually a job there at all. Google had no business units, so what was there to generally manage. And the job was several levels lower than jobs I was being offered at other companies.EXCELLENT CAREER ADVICE: ‘GET ON A ROCKET SHIP’So I sat down with Eric Schmidt, who had just become the CEO, and I showed him the spread sheet and I said, this job meets none of my criteria. He put his hand on my spreadsheet and he looked at me and said, don’t be an idiot. Excellent career advice. And then he said, Get on a rocket ship. When companies are growing quickly and they are having a lot of impact, careers take care of themselves. And when companies aren’t growing quickly or their missions don’t matter as much, that’s when stagnation and politics come in. If you’re offered a seat on a rocket ship, don’t ask what seat. Just get on.About six and one-half years later, when I was leaving Google, I took that advice to heart. I was offered CEO jobs at a bunch of companies, but I went to Facebook as COO. At the time peoplesaid, why are you going to work for a 23-year-old? The traditional metaphor for careers is a ladder, but I no longer think that metaphor holds. It doesn’t make s ense in a less hierarchical world. When I was first at Facebook, a woman named Laurie Gohler, a 1997 graduate of HBS, was working in marketing at eBay and I knew her kind of socially. And she called me and said, ‘I want to talk with you about coming to wor k with you at Facebook. So I thought about calling you, she said, and telling you all the things I’m good at and all the things I like to do. But I figured that everyone is doing that. So instead I want to know what’s your biggest problem and how can I solve it.’My jaw hit the floor. I’d hired thousands of people up to that point in my career, but no one had ever said anything like that. I had never said anything like that. Job searches are always about the job searcher, but not in Laurie’s case. I said, you’re hired. My biggest problem is recruiting and you can solve it. So Laurie changed fields into something she never thought she’d do, went down a level to start in a new field and has since been promoted and runs all of the people operations at Facebook and has done an extraordinary job.CAREERS ARE NOT A LADDER–THEY’RE A JUNGLE GYMCareers are not a ladder-they are a jungle gymLaurie has a great metaphor for careers. She says they’re not a ladder; they’re a jungle gym. As you start your post-HBS career, look for opportunities, look for growth, look for impact, look for mission. Move sideways, move down, move on, move off.Build your skills, not your resume. Evaluate what you can do, not the title they’re going to give you. Do real work. Take a sales quota, a line role, an ops job, don’t plan too much, and don’t expect a direct climb. If I had mapped out my career when I was sitting where you are, I would have missed my career.You are entering a different business world than I entered. Mine was just starting to get connected. Yours is hyper-connected. Mine was competitive. Yours is way more competitive. Mine moved quickly, yours moves even more quickly. As traditional structures are breaking down, leadership has to evolve as well. From hierarchy to shared responsibility, from command and control to listening and guiding. You’ve been trained by this great institution not just to be part of these trends but to lead. As you lead in this new world, you will not be able to rely on who you are or the degree you hold.You’ll have to rely on what you know. Your strength will not come from your place on some org chart, your strength will come from building trust and earning respect. You’re going to need talent, skill, and imagination and vision, but more than anything else, you’re going to need the ability to communicate authentically, to speak so that you inspire the people around you and to listen so that you continue to learn each and every day on the job.If you watch young children, you’ll immediately not ice how honest they are. My friend Betsy in my section a few years after business school was pregnant with her second child and her first child was about five and said, ‘Mommy, where is the baby?’And she said, ‘The baby is in my tummy.’ And he said, ‘Aren’t the baby’s arms in your arms? And she said, ‘No, the baby’s in my tummy.’ ‘Are the baby’s legs in your legs?’ ‘No, the whole baby is in my tummy. And he said, ‘Mommy, then what is growing in your butt?’As adults, we are never this honest, and that’s n ot a bad thing. I have borne two children, the last thing I needed were those comments. But it’s not always a good thing either. Because all of us, and especially leaders, need to speak and hear the truth. The workplace is an especially difficult place for anyone to tell the truth, because no matter how flat we want our organizations to be, all organizations have some form of hierarchy. What that means is that one person’s performance is assessed by someone else’s perception.HONESTY IS MISSING FROM THE WORKPLACEThis is not a setup for honesty. Think about how people speak in a typical workforce. Rather than say I disagree with our expansion strategy or better yet, this seems truly stupid. They say: I think there are many good reasons why we’re entering t his new line of business, and I’m certain the management team has done a thorough ROI analysis, but I’m not sure we fully considered the downstream effects of taking this step forward at this time. As we would say at Facebook on the internet, three letters: WTF.Truth is better used by using simple language. Last year Mark decided to learn Chinese and as part of studying, he would spendan hour or so each week with some of our employees who were native Chinese speakers. One day, one of them was trying to tell him something about her manager, so she said this long sentence and he said simpler please. And then she said it again and he said, no, I still don’t understand, simpler please…and so on and so on. Finally, in sheer exasperation, she burst out, my manager is bad.Simple and clear and very important for him to know. People rarely speak this clearly in the workforce or in life and as you get more senior, not only will people speak less clearly to you but they will overreact to the small things you say.When I joined Facebook, one of the things I had to do was build the business side of the company, put some systems into place, but I wanted to do it without destroying the culture that made Facebook great. So one of the things I tried to do was encourage people not to do formal PowerPoint presentations for meetings with me, and I would say things like, don’t do PowerPoint presentations for meetings with me. Why don’t you come in with a list of what you want to discuss, but everyone ignored me, they kept doing their presentations meeting after meeting, month after month.‘NO MORE POWERPOINTS IN MY MEETINGS AND I MEAN IT’No more power points in my meetings and I mean itSo about two years in, I said, ‘OK, I hate rules but I have arule, no more PowerPoint in my meetings and I mean it.’ About a month later I was about to speak to our global sales team on a big stage and someone came up to me and said, Before you get on that stage, you really should know everyone’s pretty upset about the no PowerPoint with c lients thing…What? So I got on the stage and said, one, I meant no PowerPoint with me. But two, more importantly, next time you hear something that’s really stupid, don’t adhere to it, fight it or ignore it, even if it’s coming from me or Mark.A good lea der recognizes that most people won’t feel comfortable challenging authority, so it falls upon authority to encourage them to question. It’s easy to say that you’re going to encourage feedback but it’s hard to do, because unfortunately it doesn’t always co me in a format we want to hear.When I first started at Google, I had a team of four people and it was really important to me that I interview everyone, being part of my team meant I had to know you. When the team had gotten to 100 people, I realized it was taking longer to schedule my interviews so one day at my meeting of just my direct reports, I said maybe I should stop interviewing, fully expecting them to jump in and say no, your interviews are a critical part of the process. They applauded. Then they fell over themselves explaining that I was the bottleneck of all time.‘WHEN YOU’RE A LEADER, IT’S REALLY HARD TO GET GOOD AND HONEST FEEDBACK’I was embarrassed, then I was angry and I spent a few hours just quietly fuming. Why didn’t they tell me I was a bottleneck, why did they let me go on slowing them down? Then I realized that if they hadn’t told me, that was my fault. I hadn’t been open enough to tell them I wanted that feedback and I would have to change that going forward. When you’re the lead er, it is really hard to get good and honest feedback, no many how many times you ask for it. One trick I’ve discovered is that I try to speak really openly about the things I’m bad at, because that gives people permission to agree with me, which is a lot easier than pointing it out in the first place. To take one of many possible examples, when things are unresolved I can get a tad anxious.Really, when anything’s unresolved, I get a lot anxious. I’m quite certain no one has accused me of being too calm. So I speak about it openly and that gives people permission to tell me when it’s happening. But if I never said anything, would anyone who works at Facebook walk up to me and say, ‘Hey Sheryl, calm down. You’re driving us all nuts.’ I don’t think so.As you graduate today, ask yourself, how will you lead. Will you use simple and clear language? Will you seek out honesty? When you get honesty back, will you react with anger or with gratitude? As we strive to be more authentic in our communication, we should also strive to be more authentic in a broader sense. I talk a lot about bringing your whole self to work—something I believe in deeply.MOTIVATION COMES FROM WORKING ON THINGS WECARE ABOUTMotivation comes from working on things we care about but it also comes from working with people we care about, and in order to care about someone, you have to know them. You have to know what they love and hate, what they feel, not just what they think. If you want to win hearts and minds, you have to lead with your heart as well as your mind. I don’t believe we have a professional self from Mondays through Fridays and a real self for the rest of the time. That kind of division probably never worked, but in today’s world, with a real voice, an authentic voice, it makes even less sense.I’ve cried at work. I’ve told people I’ve cried at work. And it’s been reported in the press that Sheryl Sandberg cried on Mark Zuckerberg’s shoulder, which is not exactly what happened. I talk about my hopes and fears and ask people about theirs. I try to be myself. Honest about my strengths and weaknesses and I encourage others to do the same. It is all professional and it is all personal, all at the very same time.I recently started speaking up about the challenges women face in the workforce, something I only had the courage to do in the last few years. Before this, I did my career like everyone else does it. I never told anyone I was a girl. Don’t tell. I left the lights on when I went home to do something for my kids. I locked my office door and pumped milk for my babies while I was on a conference call. People would say, what’s that sound. I would say, ‘What sound? I hear a beep. It’s a fire truck.’GENDER REMAINS AN ISSUE AT THE HIGHEST LEVELS OF LEADERSHIPBut the progress we’ve made in the last decade has convinced me we need to start talking about this. I graduated from HBS in 1995 and I thought it was completely clear that by the time someone from my year was invited to speak at this podium, we would have achieved equality in the workforce. But women at the top C-level jobs are stuck at 15% or 16% and has not moved in a decade. Not even close to 50%. We need to acknowledge openly that gender remains an issue at the highest levels of leadership. The promise of equality is not equality. We need to start talking about this.We need to start talking about how women underestimate their abilities compared to men and for women, but not men. Success and likeability are negatively correlated. That means that as a woman is more successful in your workplaces, she will be less liked. This means that women need a different form of management and mentorship, a different form of sponsorship and encouragement, and some protection, in some ways more than men.There aren’t enough senior women out there to do it, so it falls upon the men who are graduating today just as much or more as the women, not just to talk about gender but to help these women succeed. When they hear a woman is really great at her job but not liked, take a deep breath and ask why. We need to start talking openly about the flexibility all of us need to have both a job and a life.A couple of weeks ago in an interview I said that I leave the office at 5 p.m. to have dinner with my children, and I was shocked at the press co verage. One of my friends said I couldn’t get more headlines if I had murdered someone with an ax! This showed me this is an unresolved issue for all of us, men and women. Otherwise, why did everyone write so much about it? And maybe, most importantly, we need to start talking about how fewer women than men, even from places like HBS, even in this class, aspire to the very top jobs.WOMEN WILL NOT CLOSE THE LEADERSHIP GAP UNTIL WE CLOSE THE PROFESSIONAL AMBITION GAPWe will not close the leadership gap until we close the professional ambition gap. We need more women not just to sit at the table, but as President Obama said a few weeks ago at Barnard, to take their rightful seats at the head of the table. One of the reasons I was so excited to be here today is that Dean Nohria told me that this is the 50th anniversary of letting women into this school…Your dean is so passionate about getting more women into leadership positions and he told me he wanted me to speak this year for that reason. I met a woman from that first class once. She told me that when they first came in, they took a men’s room and converted it to a woman’s room. But they left the urinals in. The urinals are long gone. Let’s make sure that no one ever misses them.As you and your classmates spread out across the globe and walk across this stage tomorrow, I wish for you four things:First, keep in touch via Facebook; this is critical to your future success! And since we’re public now, could you click on an ad or two.Two, that you make the effort to speak as well as seek the truth.Three, that you remain true to and open about your authentic self.And four, most deeply, that your generation accomplish what mine has failed to do. Give us a world where half our homes are run by men and hal f our institutions are run by women. I’m pretty sure that would be a better world.I join everyone here in offering my most sincere congratulations to the HBS Class of 2012. Give yourselves a huge round of applause.。
怎样说话人们才会听ted观后感英语
怎样说话人们才会听ted观后感英语In today's era of information overload, the ability to communicate effectively and persuade others has become increasingly crucial. TED talks, being a platform that hosts thought-provoking presentations by experts from diverse fields, offer valuable insights into the art of persuasive communication. This article explores the key takeaways from TED talks on the topic of how to speak so that people listen, focusing on the English language perspective.The first and foremost principle is to connect with your audience. As Simon Sinek emphasizes in his TED talk "How Great Leaders Inspire Action," people don't buy what you do; they buy why you do it. It's essential to communicate your message from a perspective that resonates with your listeners' values and beliefs. Use stories and examples to illustrate your points and make them more relatable.Another key aspect is to be authentic and vulnerable. Brene Brown, in her talk "The Power of Vulnerability," talks about the importance of embracing our imperfectionsand insecurities. By being vulnerable, you create a sense of trust and authenticity with your audience, which makes them more likely to engage with your message. Avoid sounding robotic or rehearsed; allow your personality and emotions to shine through.Moreover, use simple and concise language. As Neil Gaiman puts it in his talk "Make Good Art," complex words may impress your peers, but they won't help you reach a wider audience. Stick to language that is easy to understand and avoid jargon or technical language unless necessary. Clear communication helps convey your ideas more effectively.Additionally, speak with passion and conviction. As Sheryl Sandberg notes in her talk "Why We Have Too Few Women Leaders," your tone and body language communicate as much as your words. Speak with enthusiasm and belief in your message, and your audience will be more likely to be persuaded by you.Lastly, be open to feedback and willing to adapt. As Dave Isay emphasizes in his talk "The Way We Listen," true communication is a two-way street. Be willing to listen toyour audience's feedback and adjust your message accordingly. This shows that you value their opinions and are committed to improving your communication skills.In conclusion, persuasive communication is an art that can be honed through practice and reflection. By connecting with your audience, being authentic and vulnerable, using simple language, speaking with passion, and being open to feedback, you can ensure that your message is heard and understood. The insights from TED talks on this topic are invaluable tools for anyone looking to improve their persuasive communication skills.**怎样说话人们才会听：TED观后感**在如今信息爆炸的时代，有效沟通和说服他人的能力变得日益重要。
雪莉桑德伯格演讲
(1)Congratulations everyone, you made itAnd I don't mean to the end of college, I mean to class daybecause if memory servessome of your classmates had too many scorpion bowls at the Kong last nightand are with us todayGiven the weatherthe one thing Harvard hasn't figured out how to controlsome of your other classmates are at someplace warm with a hot cocoaso you have many reasons to feel proud of yourself as you sit here today Congratulations to your parentsYou have spent a lot of moneyso your child can say she went to a "small school" near BostonAnd thank you to the class of 2014 for inviting me to be part of your celebration It means a great deal to meand looking at the list of past speakers was a little dauntingI can't be as funny as Amy Poehlerbut I'm gonna be funnier than Mother Teresa25 years agoa man named Dave I did not know at the time but who would one day become my husband was sitting where you are sitting today23 years agoI was sitting where you are sitting todayDave and I are back this weekendwith our amazing son and daughter to celebrate his reunionand we both share the same sentimentHarvard has a good basketball teamStanding here in the yard brings memories flooding back for meI arrived here from Miami in the fall of 1987with big hopes and even bigger hairI was assigned to live in one of Harvard's historic monuments to great architecture CanadayMy go-to outfit, and I'm not making this up, was a jean skirtwhite leg warmers and sneakers and a Florida sweaterbecause my parents who were here with me then as they're here with me nowtold me everyone would think it was awesome that I was from FloridaAt least we didn't have InstagramFor me, Harvard was a series of firstsMy first winter coat, we needn't need those in MiamiMy first 10 page paper, they didn't assign those in my high schoolMy first Cafter which my proctor told me that she was on the Admissions Committeeand I got admitted to Harvard for my personalitynot my academic potentialThe first person I ever met from boarding schoolI thought that was our really troubled kidsThe first person I ever met who shares the name with a whole buildingor so I met when the first classmate I met was Sarah Wigglesworthwho bore no relation at all to the dormwhich would have been nice to know with that very intimidating momentBut then I went on to meet othersFrancis Strauss, James WellsJessica Science Center BMy first love, my first heartbreakthe first time I realized that I love to learnand the first and very last time I saw anyone read anything in LatinWhen I sat in your seat all those years agoI knew exactly where I was headed. I had it all planned outI was going to the World Bank to work on global povertyThen I would go to law schoolAnd I would spend my life working in a nonprofit or in a governmentAt Harvard's commencement tomorrow as your dean describedeach school is gonna stand up and graduate togetherthe college, the law school, the med school and so onAt my graduation, my class cheered for the PhD studentsand then booed the business schoolBusiness school seemed like such a sellout18 months later, I applied to business schoolIt wasn't that I was wrong about what I would do decades after graduatingI had it wrong a year and a half laterAnd even if I could have predicted I would one day work in the private sector I never could have predicted Facebookbecause there was no internetand Mark Zuckerberg was at elementary schoolalready wearing his hoodyNot locking into a path too earlygave me an opportunity to go into a new and life changing fieldAnd for those of you who think I owe everything to good luckafter Canaday I got QuadedWhat's that? Barron(2)There is no straight path from your seat today to where you are goingDon't try to draw that line. You will not just get it wrongYou'll miss big opportunities and I mean big, like the InternetCareers are not ladders. Those days are long gonebut jungle gymsDon't just move up and down. Don't just look upLook backwards, sideways, around cornersYour career and your life will have starts and stops and zigs and zags Don't stress out about the white space, the path you can trybecause there in lives both the surprises and the opportunitiesAs you open yourself up to possibilitythe most important thing I can tell you todayis to open yourself up to honestyto telling the truth to each otherto being honest with yourselvesand to being honest about the world we live inIf you watched children, you will immediately notice how honest they are My friend Betsy was pregnant and her sonfor the second child, son Sam was 5he wanted to know where the baby was in her bodySo yes Mommy, are the babies arms in your arms?And she said, no no Sam, baby's in my tummywhole babyMom, are the baby's legs in your legs?No, Sam, whole baby's in my tummyThen Mommy, what's growing in your butt?As adultswe are almost never dishonestand that can be a very good thingWhen I was pregnant with our first childI asked my husband Dave if my butt was getting bigAt first, he didn't answer but I pressedSo he said, yeah, a littleFor years my sister-in-law said about him what peoplewill now say about you for the rest of your life when you do something doneand that guy went to HarvardHearing the truth at different times along the way would have helped meI would not have admitted it easily when I sat where you sitBut when I graduated, I was much more worried about my love life than my career I thought I only had a few years very limited time to find one of the good guys before he was to, or before they were all takenor I got too oldSo I moved to DC, and met with guyand I got married at the nearly decrepit age of 24I married a wonderful man but I had no business making that kind of commitment I didn't know who I was or who I wanted to beMy marriage fell apart within a yearsomething that was really embarrassing and painful at the timeand it did not help that so many friends came up to me and saidI never knew that, never thought that was going to work orI knew you weren't right for each otherNo one had managed to say anything like that to mebefore I marched down an aisle when it would have been far more usefulAnd as I lived through these painful months of separation and divorceboy, did I wish they had?And boy, did I wish I had asked them?At the same time in my professional life, someone did speak upMy first boss out of college was Lant Pritchettan economist who teaches at the Kennedy School who is here with us todayAfter I deferred to law school for the second timeLant sat me down and saidI don't think you should go to law school at allI don't think you want to go to law schoolI think you think you should because you told your parents you would many years ago He noted that he had never once heard me talk about the law with any interestI know how hard it can be to be honest with each othereven your closest friends, even when they're about to make serious mistakesbut I bet sitting here today, you know your closest friends' strength, weaknesses what cliff they might drive offand I bet for the most part you've never told themand they've never askedAsk themAsk them for the truth because it will help youand when they answer honestlyyou know that that's what makes them real friendsAsking for feedback is a really important habit to get intoas you leave the structure of the school calendar and exams and grades behindOn many jobs if you want to know how you're doingif you're going to have to ask andthen you're gonna have to listen without getting defensiveTake it from me, listening to criticism is never fun(3)but it's the only way we can improveA few years ago, Mark Zuckerberg decided he wanted to learn Chineseand in order to practicehe started trying to have work meetings with some ofour Facebook colleagues who are native speakersNow you would think his very limited language skillswould keep these conversations from being usefulOne day he asked a woman who was therehow it was going, how did you choose the FacebookShe answered with a long and pretty complicated sentenceSo he said, simpler pleaseShe spoke againSimpler pleaseThis went back and forth a couple of timesSo she is blurted out in frustration, my manager is badThat he understoodSo often the truth is sacrificed to conflict avoidanceor by the time we speak the truth, we've used so many caveatsand preambles that the message totally gets lostSo I ask you to ask each other for the truth and other peoplecan you list it in simple and clear language?And when you speak your truthcan you use simple and clear language?As hard as it is to be honest with other peopleit can be even more difficult to be honest with ourselvesFor years after I had childrenI would say pretty often I don't feel guilty working even when no one asked Someone might say, Sheryl, how's your day today?And I would say, great I don't feel guilty workingOr do I need a sweater?Yes, it's unpredictably freezing and I don't feel guilty workingI was kinda like a parrot with issuesThen one day on the treadmill, I was reading this article on Sociology Journal about how people don't start out lying to other peoplethey start out lying to themselvesand the things we repeat most frequentlyare often those liesSo the sweat was pouring down my faceI started wondering what do I repeat pretty frequentlyand I realized I feel guilty workingI then did a lot of researchand I spent an entire year with my dear friend Nell Scovellwriting a book talking about how I was thinking and feelingand I'm so grateful that so many women around the world connected to itMy book of course was called Fifty Shades of GreyI can see a lot of you connected to it as wellWe have even more work to do in being honest about the world we live inWe don't always see the hard truthsand once we see them, we don't always have the courage to speak outWhen my classmates and I were in collegewe thought that fight for gender equality was one that was overSure, most of the leaders in every industry were menbut we thought changing that was just a matter of timeLamont Library right over thereone generation before us didn't let women through its doorsBut by the time we sat in your seat, everything was equalHarvard and Radcliffe was fully integratedWe didn't need feminism because we were already equalsWe were wrongI was wrongThe world was not equal thenand it is not equal nowI think nowadayswe don't just hide ourselves from the hard truthand shut our eyes to the inequitiesbut we suffer from the tyranny of low expectationsIn the last election cycle in the United Stateswomen won 20% of the Senate seatsand all the headlines started screaming outwomen take over the SenateI felt like screaming back, wait a minute everyone50% of the population getting 20% of the seatsThat's not a takeover. That's an embarrassmentJust a few months ago this yeara very well respected and well-known business executives in Silicon Valley invited me to give a speech to his club on social mediaI've been to this club a few months before when Ihave been invited for a friend's birthdayIt was a beautiful building and I was wandering aroundlooking at it, looking for the women's room(4)when a staff member informed me very firmlythat the ladies' room was over thereand I should be sure not to go up stairsbecause women are never allowed in this buildingI didn't realize I was in an all-male club until that minuteI spent the rest of the night wondering what I was doing therewondering what everyone else was doing therewondering if any of my friends in San Francisco would invite me toa party at a club that didn't allow Blacks or Jews or Asians or gaysBeing invited to give a business speech at this clubhit me even more egregiousbecause you couldn't claim that it was only social business that was done there My first thought was, "Really?"ReallyA year after "Lean In"this dude thought it was a good ideato invite me to give a speech to his literal all-boys clubAnd he wasn't alonethere is an entire committee of well respected businessmanwho joined him in issuing this kind invitationTo paraphrase Groucho Marxand don't worry, I won't try to do the voiceI don't want to speak in any club that won't have me as a memberSo I said noand I did it in a way I probably wouldn't have even 5 years beforeI wrote a long and passionate emailarguing that they should change their policiesThey thanked me for my prompt response and wrote thatperhaps things will eventually changeOur expectations are too lowEventually needs to become immediatelyWe need to see the truth and speak the truthWe tolerate discrimination and we pretend that opportunity is equalYes we elected an African-American presidentbut racism is pervasive stillYes, there are women who run Fortune 500 companies5 percent to be precisebut our road there is still paved with words like pussy and bossywhile our male peers are leaders and results focusedAfrican-American women have to prove that they're not angryLatinos risk being branded fiery hot headA group of Asian-American women and men in Facebookwore pins one day that said I may or may not be good enoughYes, Harvard has a woman presidentand in two years, the United States may have a woman president(5)But in order to get thereHillary Clinton is gonna have to overcome 2 very real obstaclesunknown and often ununderstood gender biasand even worse, a degree from YaleYou can challenge stereotypes that's subtle and obviousAt Facebook, we have posters around the wall to inspire usDone is better than perfectFortune favors the bold. What would you do if you weren't afraid?My new favoritenothing at Facebook is someone else's problemI hope you feel that way about the problems you see in the worldbecause they are not someone else's problemGender inequality harms men along with womenRacism hurts Whites along with MinoritiesAnd the lack of equal opportunity keeps all of usfrom failing our true potentialSo as you graduate todayI want to put some pressure on youI want to put some pressure on you to acknowledge the hard truthsnot shy away from themand when you see them to address themThe first time I spoke out about what it was like to be a woman in the workforce was less than five years agoThat means that for 18 years from where you sit to where I standmy silence implied that everything was okayYou can do better than I didAnd I mean that so sincerelyAt the same timeI want to take some pressure off youSitting here today you don't have toknow what career you want or how to get the career you might wantLeaning in does not mean your path will be straight or smoothand most people who make great contribution start way later than Mark ZuckerbergFind a jungle gym you want to play and start climbingnot only will you figure out what you want to do eventuallybut once you do, you'll crush itLooking at you all here todayI'm filled with hopeAll of you who were admitted to a "small school" near Boston either for your academic potential or your personality or both you've had your first, whether it's a winter coat, a love or a C you've learned more about who you are and who you want to be And most importantlyyou've experienced the power of communityyou know that while you are extraordinary on your ownwe are all stronger and can be louder togetherI know that you will never forget Harvardand Harvard will never forget youespecially during the next fundraising driveTomorrowyou all become part of a lifelong communitywhich offers truly great opportunityand therefore comes with real obligationYou can make the world fair for everyoneexpect honesty from yourself and each otherdemand and create truly equal opportunitynot eventually, but nowAnd tomorrow by the wayyou get something Mark Zuckerberg does not havea Harvard degreeCongratulations, everyone。
ted最受欢迎的25个演讲稿
ted最受欢迎的25个演讲稿TED (Technology, Entertainment, Design)是一项聚焦于发布知识、思想和激发创新的全球盛会。
自1984年成立以来，TED已经举办了无数场次的演讲，其中一些精彩的演讲掀起了全球范围内的热潮。
下面我将介绍TED最受欢迎的25个演讲稿，这些演讲稿让人们产生洞察力、激发内心，不仅深受观众喜爱，而且对他们的生活产生了积极的影响。
1. Ken Robinson - "Do Schools Kill Creativity?"肯·罗宾逊的演讲探讨了教育体系对个人创造力的影响。
他提倡创新教育方法，嘲讽了传统学校教育模式的局限性，并鼓励每个人发掘自己的潜力和创造力。
2. Simon Sinek - "How Great Leaders Inspire Action"西蒙·西尼克通过对成功领导者的研究，探讨了影响人们行动背后的原因。
他强调理解自身的"为什么"，以及如何以引人入胜的方式激发他人的参与。
3. Amy Cuddy - "Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are"艾米·卡迪通过她的研究，阐述了肢体语言如何塑造一个人的形象和影响力。
她讲述了一个关于力量姿势的故事，并鼓励人们以积极的方式塑造自己。
4. Brene Brown - "The Power of Vulnerability"布莱妮·布朗通过她的个人经历和研究，强调了脆弱性的力量。
她鼓励人们接受自己的不完美，勇敢地展现真实的自己，并与他人建立真正的联系。
5. Elizabeth Gilbert - "Your Elusive Creative Genius"伊丽莎白·吉尔伯特谈论了创造力的异常性。
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桑德伯格TED演讲：为什么女性领导那么少？Facebook COO 谢乐尔·桑德伯格（Sheryl Sandberg）谢乐尔·桑德伯格（Sheryl Sandberg）是全球最大的社交网站Facebook的首席运营官，曾任比尔·克林顿政府的财政部办公室主任，后任Google副总裁，短时间内帮助谷歌实现盈利。
2008年3月，桑德伯格加入新兴社交网络Facebook，担任首席运营官。
3年后，Facebook 的用户数从当初的6000万飙升至如今的7亿，广告收入更是从2008年的3亿美元上涨到2010年的19亿美元，比两年前翻了六倍，而Google的广告收入在这三年增速减缓。
她在演讲中为职场女性提供3条建议：像男性一样坐到谈判桌旁，争取自己能够胜任的职位和应得的薪水；与伴侣有效沟通，共同分担家务和养育孩子的责任；在得到自己想要的职位前“不要提前离场”。
正文：我们先承认我们是幸运的。
我们没有生活在我们母亲和我们祖母生活过的那个世界，在那时，女性的职业选择是非常有限的。
今天在座的各位，大多数人成长于一个女性有基本公民权的世界。
令人惊讶地是，我们还生活在一个有些女性还没有这些权利的世界。
但除上所述，我们还有一个问题，它是一个实际问题。
这问题是：在世界各地，女性没达到任何职业的高管职位。
这些数据很清楚地告诉我们这实情。
190个国家元首里，九位是女性领导。
在世界上议会的总人数中，13%是女性议员。
在公司部门，女性占据高位C级职位，董事会席位高管职位比例占15%，16%。
自从2002年起这数据没变化过有下降趋势。
即使在非营利的行业----我们有时认为这一行业是被更多女性所领导的，女性领导人占20%。
我们还面临着另一个问题，就是女性在职业成功和个人价值实现中所面临的艰难选择。
美国最近一个研究表明，已婚高管人员，三分之二的已婚男性高管人员有孩子，只有三分之一的已婚女性高管人员有孩子。
几年前，我在纽约，出席一个协议，在那种别致的纽约私募投资办事处中的一个你能想象到的。
我在这个大约有3小时的会议上，过了2小时，有个间歇休息，所有人都站起来，这会议组织者开始显得的确很尴尬。
我意识到他不知道在他办公室哪里是女洗手间。
所以我开始寻找移动厕所，盘算他们刚搬进来，但我没有看到任何移动厕所。
然后我说，“你是刚搬到这办公室吗？”他说，“不是，我们在这儿已经有一年了。
”我说，“你能否告诉我这一年来，我是唯一一个来这间办公室的女性吗？”他看着我，说到，“是的。
或者说你可能是唯一一个要上女性洗手间。
”所以问题是，我们该怎样解决这样的尴尬？我们怎样改变这些高管职位的比例？我们怎样使这个变得不同？我首先想说，我谈这个女性就职因为我的确认为我们得找到答案。
在我们劳动力的高收入的部分，在高管的人员中，财富500强首席执行长官中，或在其它类似的高管行业中，我确信，问题是女性被排除在外。
当下人们对此谈了很多，他们谈到像弹性时间和指导公司应该培训妇女计划的事。
今天我不想谈这些尽管所有这些事都非常重要。
今天我想关注作为个人我们所能做到的事。
我们要告诉给自己的事是什么？我们告诉给女同事和打工的女性的事是什么？我们要告诉给我们女儿的事是什么？现在首先，我想澄清这个演讲不带有任何评判。
我也没有正确的答案；甚至就我而言，我也没有完全的答案。
在周一，我离开我生活的加利福尼亚，我坐上飞机赶赴这会议。
当我送我三岁的女儿到幼儿园时，她紧紧抱进我的腿，哭喊着，“妈咪，不要上飞机”之类的话。
这很难受。
有时我感到内疚。
我知道无论是家庭主妇，还是职业女性，有时她们都会感同身受。
所以我不会说对所有人来说，呆在职场是件正确的事。
今天我的演讲是要讲如果你真正想呆在职场。
我想有3条建议。
一、坐在桌旁。
二、让你的伴侣成为一个真正的合作伙伴。
三、在你离开前别放弃。
第一、坐在桌旁。
仅仅几周前在脸谱，我们主持一个非常高级行政官员会议，马克·扎克伯格与来自硅谷周围的高级行政官员见面。
每个人都坐在桌边。
然后携同他的2个女性，在他部门中她们也占非常高的职位。
我对她们说，“坐在桌边。
来吧，坐在桌边。
”因为她们坐在了屋子的一边。
我在大四时，我选修一节欧洲思想史的课程。
你们喜爱大学的这类课程嘛。
我希望我现在能做到。
我和我室友卡丽一起学习，她那时是一个才华横溢的文学学生，现在成为了一个杰出的文学家，另外我的弟弟一个聪明的小伙子，但他爱打水球，他上医学预科大二。
我们三人一起选修这课。
然后卡丽读了所有希腊文和拉丁文的原版书籍--去了所有的课--我读了所有英语的书上了大多数的课。
我弟弟有点忙；他读了12本书中的一本去上了几节课，在考试前几天他来到我们房间自己辅导了一下。
我们三个一起去考试了，我们坐下来。
我们考了有3个小时，我们的小蓝笔记本，是的。
我们走出来，对视对方，我们说，“你考得怎样？”卡丽说，“伙计，我感到我真没有答对有关黑格尔辩证法的主要命题。
”我说，“上帝啊，我真希望我考试时能想到学习过的洛克的产权理论等哲学家。
”我弟弟却说，“我会是班里考得最好的。
”“你会是班里考得最好的？你啥都不知道。
”这种故事的问题出在数据所表明的事实：女性被系统化地低估了她们自身的能力。
如果你测试男性和女性，你问他们问题，按完全客观的标准平均成绩来算，男性会错误的高估一些，女性则会错误地低估一些。
女性在职场不会为自身利益去谈判。
在过去两年，关于人们从学校进入职场的一个调查表明57%的男生或男性进入职场，我猜会协商他们的第一份薪水，只有7%的女性会去协商。
更重要的是，男性把他们的成功归功于他们自身，而女性则归功于其他外部因素。
如果你问男性为什么他们能把工作做好，他们会说，“我棒极了。
这是显而易见的。
这还用问吗？”如果你问女性是什么使她们在工作中出色，她们会说有人帮助她们，她们很幸运，她们工作异常努力。
这个问题很重要吗？大家，这关系很大因为没人得到角落办公室的职位要是只坐在旁边，而不是桌边。
没人得到提升如果他们认为他们不应享有这成功，或者他们甚至不明白他们自己的成功。
我但愿这答案是容易的。
我希望我尽可能告诉我所共事过的所有年轻女性，所有这些非常棒的女性，“相信你们自己，为自身利益要讨价还价。
把握住你的成功。
”我希望我也能告诉我的女儿。
但这不是很简单。
因为首先是数据表明一件事，它表明成功和人缘亲切性对于男性来说是积极影响的而对于女性来说是负面影响的。
每个人都点头，因为我们大家都知道这是真的。
一个非常棒的研究也很好地表明了这一观点。
哈佛商学院的一个著名研究是有关于一位叫海蒂·罗森的女性。
她是硅谷一家公司的负责人，她使用她的关系成为一名非常成功的风险资本家。
在2002年，不久前当时在哥伦比亚大学的一位教授做这个例子和把它改成霍华德·罗森。
他把这个案例，他们两人向两组学生展示。
他只改变了一个词：海蒂到霍华德。
但这个词就造成了非常大的差异。
然后他调查学生。
好消息是学生们，男生和女生认为海蒂和霍华德都是能力相当的，这很好。
但坏消息是每个人都喜欢霍华德。
他是个了不起的人，大家都想和他共事，大家都想和他去钓鱼。
但海蒂呢？不好说。
她有点只为自己着想，对政治有点热衷。
大家不太想和她共事。
这是复杂的。
我们得告诉我们的女儿和我们的同事，我们得告诉我们自己相信我们能获得A，得到提升，坐在桌边。
我们在这世上得做到这点，在世上，女性要争取这些就得做出牺牲，尽管她们的兄弟不用为此而付出牺牲。
所有关于这的最可悲的事是很难记住这个。
我将讲个对我来说是个真正尴尬的故事，但我认为它很重要。
在脸谱不久前我给大约100名员工做这个演讲。
几小时后，在脸谱工作的一个年轻女性坐到我小桌子旁边，她想和我谈谈。
我说，好，她坐了下来，我们谈了起来。
她说，“我今天学了一些东西。
我知道我需要举起我的手。
”我说，“你指什么啊？”她说，“你在讲这个话时，你说你将会回答2个以上问题。
我和其他一些人举起手，你回答了2个以上问题。
我把手放下来，我注意到所有女性都把手放下来，然后你又回答了很多问题，仅有男性参与。
”我自己想了一下，如果换成是我，谁会在乎这个，明显地做这次演讲，在这演讲中，我甚至没注意到男人们的手是不是还一直举着，女人们的手是不是还一直举着，我们到底有多出色，当我们作为公司和组织的经理人的时候，以及当我们作为少数，与男性竞争争取机会的时候？我们得让女性坐到桌子边上。
第二条：让你的伴侣成为一个真正的合作伙伴。
我已经确信我们在职场比起我们在家庭中起了更大的作用。
数据也很清楚地表明这点。
如果一个女性和一个男性同时全职并有一个小孩，女性比起男性要做两倍多家务活儿，女性比起男性做了三倍多照顾婴儿的事。
所以她有了2份，3份工作，而他只有一份。
当有人必须在家多干活时，谁应该留下来？这个的理由实在太复杂，我没有时间来讲它们。
但我也不认为周日看美式足球和日常的懒惰是理由。
我认为理由是更加复杂化的。
我认为，作为一个社会，我们总是更希望男孩子们成功，对女孩子则压力小些。
我知道有居家男人呆在家里做内务支持职场妻子这很难。
当我去“妈咪和我”的培训课时，我看到那里的父亲，我留意到其他妈咪不愿和他相处。
这是个问题，因为我们得把内务变成一个重要的工作因为它是世界上最难的工作-居家工作无论男人女人，我们只有平分了这些事，女性才可能留在职场。
（掌声）研究表明夫妻收入相等、且夫妻分担责任相当的家庭也有50%的离婚率。
如果这数据并不那么鼓舞人，还有更多的在这个讲台我该怎么讲呢？夫妻双方对于彼此的了解，不仅是做爱这么简单。
（欢呼）建议三：在你离开前别放弃。
我认为这是一个非常深刻的讽刺对于女性所采取行动而言--我一直目睹类似情况的发生--女性希望留在职场这个目标，往往导致它们最终不得不离开职场。
曾发生这样的事：我们都忙；每个人都很忙；作为一个女人也很忙。
她开始考虑生小孩。
从她开始考虑生小孩的时候起，她开始考虑为孩子准备房间。
“我该如何调整孩子这件事和手头上的其他事呢？”言下之意，她不再举起她的手，她不寻求提升，她不找新的计划，她不会说，“我，我想做那个。
”她开始退缩。
这是个问题让我们说说她怀孕的那段日子9个月的怀胎，3个月的产假，6个月来调养休息快速调整要2年，更多的，正如我看到的女性开始过早考虑这事当她们有约会或者结婚时，当她们开始考虑要小孩，这会花相当长的一段时间。
一位女性关于此事来找我，我看着她，她显得有点年轻。
我说，“那么你和你丈夫考虑要小孩了？”她说，“哦不，我还没结婚。
”她甚至没有男友。
我说，“你考虑这个太早了吧。
”但关键是一旦你开始退缩下来，接下来会发生什么呢？每个人都会经历这个在这儿我告诉你，一旦在家你有了孩子，你真的最好是回到你的工作中去，因为把小孩留在家太难了，你的工作得有挑战性。
它也得有回报。