中美家庭教育对比整理

1. Family Education.At present, the majority of family educational expert consider that family education can be divided in narrow and broad sense. Generalized family education indicates that family members teach each other in their daily life. In a narrow sense, it indicates that the elder members (especially for parents) of a family teach younger in their daily life. Family education as one part of family, school and society education has an irreplaceable meaning to other two educations. Family education is not only attaching importance to the health of children, but also their mental health which makes them more adaptable to competitive society in the future. More often than not, education is also an interaction between children and parents which means that they both be educated during the process of it.2.1The Feature of Chinese Family Education.First, Chinese parents usually charge of whole things of their kids to make them have enough time to study. Especially for those parents who have only child provide them anything what their kids need. There is also a new phenomenon that we can see most of elementary school students have mobile phones, digital camera, MP5 which are top grade cons umer goods. It’s detrimental to develop children’s independent ability and imperceptibly make them spend freely on money which given by their parents. A lot of Chinese parents only pay attention to their kids’ basic necessities of life but not their inner mind which easily make them have mental or moral character problems. In the meantime, it’s easy to make their kids have personality defect and lose ability of living all by themselves. Therefore, this kind of education is absolutely unreasonable and lack short of scientific.Second, the matters of family education one-sided emphasize test score. Chinese parents only attach importance to intelligent development of their kids but seldom evenly conduct the education of morality, intelligence, physique and art to their children. So that it’s the main cause of uneven in development of Chinese students’ integral ability. We also see a phenomenon that a lot of only children are high intelligent, vulnerable and sensitive. But in the fields of developing intelligence of children, Chinese parents only care for their result of ability of memory, comprehension and computational problem. On the contrary, innovation-oriented society is pressed for practical ability and creative ability.Third, Chinese parents always regard their kids as private property. They are concerned more about face-saving than their kids. They deserve their kids are their own and have right to control the children’s behavior. When their kids betray their orders, they also use their dignity or effect violence to their children but do not know it is illegal. They believe the concept of family education needs violence sometime to their naughty behavior. Furthermore, Chinese parents also think if they love their kids, whatever methods of expression, the kids should accept it and unconditional comply with it. As the times passes, the children would not like to communicate with their parents who will not be told by their kids when they have something mental problems.It affluence the kids’ mental health and is difficult to form a harmonious family relationships.2.2The Feature of American Family Education.First, American parents lay emphasis on cultivating equal consciousness. American parents always like to provide ample opportunities for their kids to perform themselves in daily life regardless of whether the result is successful or failure; they often approve their ability and praise them. The children who grown up in this kind of relax environment are active, innovative and confident. But American parents will not neglect any shortcomings of their kids who are told “they should correct their fault when the find it out immediately” by their parents. Sometimes American parents also punish their children when they do some mistakes. But it mainly depends on the foundation of respecting children’s self-respect and they do not use any insulting words to humiliate them.Second, American parents pay more attention to cultivate independent consciousness and hardship spirit to their children. When their kids were born, they usually try every means to provide opportunities or conditions to train their kids to make them full trained in every condition. It is never be heard of some American children sleeping with their parents when they are baby who need to sleep in a small bed alone and grow up to older they will have their own room to sleep. Large quantities of American parents support their kids to take a part-time job which can practice their capability of independent living. In United States, most of adolescents aged eighteen earn money by part-time job to pay the sky high college tuition. From children to adolescent in western countries take part-time job develop their hardship spirit. The average incomes of United States families are dozens of time to Ceehina, but American parents have a strict limit and requirement for giving pin money to their kids. A survey conclude that fifty four percent of American adolescent students do not have pin money which given by their parents and the more elder will not have chance to get it form parents.Third, American parents lay emphasis on creative ability of their kids. American parents almost will not inflict more pressure to their kids in studying and think they are willing to learn if are interest in certain knowledge. It will hurt kids’ emotion and personality if they force them to do what they do not want to do. American parents do not make their children to recite a large quantity of formula and theorem mechanically but eagerly teach them how to solve the difficulties and find out the ways of looking for an answer when they face an unfamiliar field. They also try all their best to affirm any effort of their kids and praise every answer of children’s thinking to protect and stimulate whole creative desire and trials. What they want to do which is usually is supported by their parents who make them to be a man who they are.2.3.5The Detail of Evaluation between Chinese and American Parents.Chinese parents think their most important job is study compare with other aspects which are all secondary. They also stick to the principle of high education background is everything? Therefore they always encourage their children pay all energy to study so that Chinese education attach more importance to test scores andbody health not moral quality and mental health. The evaluation of Chinese parents to their children often focus on their children’s test scores and urge them by saying,“You should study harder”, “Why your examine result is lower than before?” Which are not unfamiliar words to Chinese children who are seldom hear the praiseful words or objective evaluation to their works in other aspects. And recent survey manifest that the achievement and family happiness of a man eighty percents depends on nonintellectual factor but twenty pe rcent upon intelligent factor which is “human dignity” （人格）----“humanistic literacy”.（人文素养）American parents attach more importance to moral qualities, capability and integral quality of their children. Parents permit their children to do what they like and encourage them to find out questions in anything and try to solve it by themselves.2.3.2Critical and Praiseful Words.Critical words is usually more that praiseful ones from the mouth of Chinese parents who also take advantage of ironic, sharp-fanged and threatening words to crack down the confidence of their children. But American parents usually like to reward instead of punishment to children when they do a good job. The attitude of treating to them by American parents is honesty and down to the ground. We also see a phenomenon that Chinese parents always tell their children others are better than you and should work harder to catch up with them,. But American parents won’t do that, they never tell children are worse than others. They always regard their own children are the most smart ones to them.。