Unit+7

• How can we build good relationships with people we are familiar with, such as our peers and our family?
• What do you think are some of the common causes of misunderstanding between people, and what do you think we should do to clear up misunderstanding?
Unit Seven
Relationships & Communication
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How Well Can We Listen?
Kathleen T. McWhorter
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Warm-up Questions
• How easy is it for you to make friends with a total stranger? Do you think that interpersonal skills are very important at school and at work? Please explain. • Have you ever encountered a very impolite person? If so, share your experiences with your group members.
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Outline
• • • • • • • • Part 1: (Para. 1) What: people’s complaints about others’ not listening. Part 2: (Para. 2-4) Why: the reasons for the failure in communication, misunderstanding resulting from poor listening. Part 3: (Para. 5-7) How: to be good listeners. Part 4: (Para. 8) Conclusion: the importance of listening.
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Proverbs and Quotations • I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen. — Ernest Hemingway, American writer 我喜欢倾听。从仔细聆听中我学到了很多。大 多数人从不倾听。 — 美国作家 海明威 • We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak. — Epictetus, Greek philosopher 我们有两只耳朵一张嘴巴，这样我们可以多听 少说。 —— 希腊哲学家 爱比克泰德
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take into account: • (also take account of/take into consideration) consider or include particular facts or details when making a decision or judgment about something • e.g. These figures do not take into account the changes in the rate of inflation. • analysis: n. • (pl. analyses) examination of something together with thoughts and judgments about it • analyze (vt.) analysis (n.) analytic (a.) analyst (n.)
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• adoption: n. • adopt: vt. • e.g. The history teacher decided to adopt the approach of story-telling in his teaching. • e.g. adopted children • CF: adopt / adapt
• What has to be borne in mind is that, to ensure that good communication takes place, talking and hearing are just not enough. (Para. 8)
• When we hear people complain that no one listens to them or no one understands them, we should be able to provide an acceptable explanation. (Para. 8)
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Proverbs and Quotations
• See, listen, and be silent, and you will live in peace. 多看多听少多嘴，你会太平过日子。 • The wise man is always a good listener. 智者善听人言。 • To make enemies, talk; to make friends, listen. 要成仇敌，多讲；要成朋友，多听。
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• With much free time left at their disposal, the listeners are likely to be carried away by their own thoughts and they soon lose their way. (Para. 5) • Since each person has its own range of interests, when the speaker talks about something that is of no personal interest or concern to him, he would “switch off the talking”. (Para. 6)
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• Though there might be room for hesitation in the adoption of it when “generation” is taken into account, it is far from wrong to borrow the rest in making an analysis. • 当然，如果细究“代”的本义，那么这算不上 特别贴切，但是大可借用该术语的其他涵义来 分析问题。
• CF: desert (n.), dessert (n.), deserve (v.)
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• Experts tend to resort to the term “generation gap” to explain the conflicts between parents and children. • 每当父母和孩子之间发生冲突的时候，专 家们往往会用“代沟”这一术语来解释。
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contribute: v. 1. vi. (usually followed by to) help in causing a situation, event, or condition • e.g. An increase in the price of drugs has contributed to the rising cost of medical care. • Please translate:锻炼能促进健康。 • e.g. Exercise contributes to better health. 2. vt. give money, help, ideas, etc. to something • e.g. The volunteers contribute their own time to the project.
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vital: adj. • extremely important and necessary for something to succeed or exist • e.g. Regular exercise is vital for your health. • of vital importance, of greatest importance • CF: vital & essential • vital 强调指维持生命、活力必不可少的，或生死 攸关的； • e.g. Irrigation was vital to early civilization. • essential 强调必不可少，暗含某物如缺少某部分 则失去本质特征的意味。 • e.g. It is essential to read any document carefully 2013年6月7日 you sign it. 9 before