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because your generation had done such an amazing job fighting for equality, equality was now ours for the taking. And it wasn't.
因为你们这代人已经?了不起的事以争取两性平等 现在供我们这代人拿?但是不管用[01:29]
and never spoke about being a woman, never spoke about it 没有公开说过[01:09]
publicly.
But I also had noticed that it wasn't working.
然而我也注意到这就是行不通[01:18]
I came out of college over 20 years ago, and I thought that all 二十多年前我大学毕业时 我想所有同辈有男有?而
PM: So when we first started talking about, maybe the subject PM:最初我们交谈时 主题不是社交网络 虽然我们 wouldn't be social media, which we assumed it would be, but 以为是社交?但是你有很多其他想法 是跟女性领导 that you had very much on your mind the missing leadership 职位的?尤其在科技和社交网络领域[00:25]
three, she was clinging to my leg: "Mommy, don't go."
And Pat's a friend, and so, not related to the speech I was 因为帕特是我的朋?所以即使这件事和我演说无关 planning on giving, which was chock full of facts and figures, 演说都是数据图表与个人无关[02:50]

FacebookCOO桑德伯格毕业演讲:失去一生所爱,让我变得更加坚强

FacebookCOO桑德伯格毕业演讲:失去一生所爱,让我变得更加坚强

FacebookCOO桑德伯格毕业演讲:失去一生所爱,让我变得更加坚强以下为Facebook首席运营官雪莉·桑德伯格(Sheryl Sandberg)2017年5月12日在弗吉尼亚理工学院毕业典礼上的演讲。

桑兹校长,尊敬的教师,自豪的父母,忠实的朋友,年轻的兄弟姐妹们……祝贺你们。

最重要的是,祝贺弗吉尼亚理工学院(Virginia Tech)2017届的毕业生们!我很荣幸来到这里,这个旧金山夏日让人备感亲切,一如任何名字中带有“Tech”的事物。

今天,你们作为2017届的毕业生,我为你们感到激动。

为所有前来为你们加油鼓气的人感到激动。

从你踏进校门的那天起,他们便鞭策着你,帮你抹去泪水,陪你开怀大笑,直到今天。

让我们向他们表达衷心的感谢。

毕业演讲往往是单方面的。

演讲者,也就是我,传授自己得来不易的人生经验。

毕业生,也就是你们,坐在雨中,体贴地倾听。

然后,你们把帽子扔向空中,拥抱朋友,让父母拍上一大堆照片——然后开始精彩的人生……也许顺道去趟Sharkey’s餐馆,走之前再来一盘鸡翅。

今天会不太一样,我不讲大家不知道的。

我想讲讲弗吉尼亚理工学院社群再清楚不过的。

今天,我想谈谈韧劲。

这所大学有很多知名的东西。

你们的善良与正派,你们的学术成就,你们根深蒂固的校园精神。

我有很多时间都在跟大学打交道,虽是工作需要,但也是因为我想重温双十年华。

谈起自己的母校时,很少有人像霍奇谈论弗吉尼亚理工那样。

那种骄傲与团结,那种深深的认同感……只要问一个问题就可以证明。

霍奇是什么?(我就是!)在美国弗吉尼亚理工学院是一种吉祥物(也可代指该学院学生),也代表了学院的一种永不服输的精神这就是了。

你们也许没有意识到,在霍奇精神的鼓舞下,你们的韧劲也日益增强。

近两年来,我都在研究韧劲这个东西,因为我经历了一件事,它所要求我具备的,是以前的我自认为做不到的。

两年零十一天前,我的丈夫大卫突然意外离世。

有时候,这些话我至今仍难以启齿,因为我到现在还是不太能接受那个现实。

Shirley_Sandberg

Shirley_Sandberg

Shirley Sandberg: The Worthy Queen of Silicon Valley ◎供稿:杨 琴雪莉·桑德伯格在2016年伯克利大学演讲道:“生活中总会碰到很多难处的事情,有时错失机会。

工作不合适、遭遇疾病或事故,因而一切瞬间改变。

有时尊严尽失,刻薄的偏见常常刺痛人心。

有时缘尽人散,亲密关系一旦破碎就难重圆。

人生不仅要面临生活,还要面临死别。

”雪莉的人生历经坎坷,但她用一次次行动证明:即便悲伤或空虚,或是面对巨大挑战,你仍然可以选择快乐和有意义的生活。

雪莉·桑德伯格:当之无愧的硅谷女王Track 7Life style/人物志Shirley Sandberg, now Facebook’s chief operating officer, is known by the media as “Facebook’s first lady”, and is the first female member of Facebook’s board. She is No.5 on the 2011 Forbes list of powerful women, one of the top 50 “most powerful” businesswomen elites on the Forbes list. In 2013, she appeared on the cover of Time magazine and was rated as one of the most influential people in the world by Time magazine.As a successful woman with countless great 1)halos and labels, what behind her is a journey of great 2)frustration and inspiration.Shirley Sandberg, was born in 1969 in a Jewish family in Washington, D.C., a typical middle-class family. Her father, Joel, is an 3)ophthalmologist, and her mother, Adele, teaches French at a college. Her parents are both senior 4)intellectuals. They 5)instilled their traditional educational ideas from childhood. They not only pay attention to her academic achievements, but also hope that she can fulfill her life-long task and be a good wife and good mother.In 1987, Shirley was admitted to Harvard University. In Harvard, where there are so many talented people, she still graduated from Harvard economics department as the first prize and top student. After graduation, she settled down in Washington, and soon met a suitable marriage partner, a Washington businessman. Like completing a historical mission, she got the 6)certificate without 7)hesitation.But because of her husband’s incomprehension of her career, they divorced after only one year together. After her marriage failed, she put all her heart into her work.One year after the divorce, Sherry was invited to serve as the chief of staff for her 8)mentor1)halo[̍he I ləʊ]n. 光环2)frustration[frʌ̍stre Iʃn]n. 挫折3)ophthalmologist[̩ɒfᶱæl̍mɒlədʒI st]n. 眼科医师4)intellectual[̩I ntə̍lektʃuəl]n. 知识分子5)instill[I n̍st I l]v. 灌输6)certificate[sə̍t I f I kət , sə̍t I f I ke I t]n. 证书,文凭 7)hesitation[̩hez I̍te Iʃn]n. 犹豫8)mentor[̍mentɔː(r)]n. 指导者,导师Summers, who became Vice Treasury Secretary of thethen US President Bill Clinton’s administration. At thistime, Shirley was only 29 years old and had alreadymade her mark in the political circle of Washington.1. In the future, there will be no female leaders. There will just be leaders.在未来,将没有女性领导人,只会有领导人。

毕业典礼英文演讲稿

毕业典礼英文演讲稿

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毕业典礼英文演讲稿1Answering speechDear professors and dear friends of China Jiliang University, I’m honored to address you on behalf of all the graduations this year.I would like to thank my parents, classmates, and friends who helped us ,and encouraged and supported us as we worked towards to our graduate degrees.I also w ant to thank Jiliang’s faculty members who served as our instructors,mentor, and friends, relatives, like Prof.Yu, Prof.Gao, Mrs. Liang. Through their commitments, they have inspired us to achieve and guided us to our dream.On this stage, at my graduation ceremony, when I look back my four years at Jiliang, my mind is filled with memories. May be you will ask me: do you have special to share? Yes, I want to share few simple but critical suggestions with you and with for the coming juniors:First, be work hard and think smart.Secondly, believe things happened for a reason.Thirdly, just as Jobs said at the graduation ceremony in Stanford University, stay hungry, stay foolish.Today, we will graduate from China Jiliang University, but we will be with Jiliang forever. Let us think forward and worktogether to make the new history of China Jiliang University.Thank you.毕业典礼英文演讲稿2Unlike any other creature on this planet, humans can learn and understand, without having experienced. They can think themselves into other people’s minds, imagine themselves into other people’s places.Of course, this is a power, like my brand of fictional magic, that is morally neutral. One might use such an ability to manipulate, or control, just as much as to understand or sympathise.And many prefer not to exercise their imaginations at all. They choose to remain comfortably within the bounds of their own experience, never troubling to wonder how it would feel to have been born other than they are. They can refuse to hear screams or to peer inside cages; they can close their minds and hearts to any suffering that does not touch them personally; they can refuse to know.I might be tempted to envy people who can live that way, except that I do not think they have any fewer nightmares than I do. Choosing to live in narrow spaces can lead to a form of mental agoraphobia, and that brings its own terrors. I think the wilfully unimaginative see more monsters. They are often more afraid.What is more, those who choose not to empathize may enable real monsters. For without ever committing an act of outright evil ourselves, we collude with it, through our own apathy.One of the many things I learned at the end of that Classics corridor down which I ventured at the age of 18, in search ofsomething I could not then define, was this, written by the Greek author Plutarch: What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality.That is an astonishing statement and yet proven a thousand times every day of our lives. It expresses, in part, our inescapable connection with the outside world, the fact that we touch other people’s lives simply by existing.But how much more are you, Harvard graduates of 2008, likely to touch other people’s lives? Your intelligence, your capacity for hard work, the education you have earned and received, give you unique status, and unique responsibilities. Even your nationality sets you apart. The great majority of you belong to the world’s only remaining superpower. The way you vote, the way you live, the way you protest, the pressure you bring to bear on your government, has an impact way beyond your borders. That is your privilege, and your burden.If you choose to use your status and influence to raise your voice on behalf of those who have no voice; if you choose to identify not only with the powerful, but with the powerless; if you retain the ability to imagine yourself into the lives of those who do not have your advantages, then it will not only be your proud families who celebrate your existence, but thousands and millions of people whose reality you have helped transform for the better. We do not need magic to change the world, we carry all the power we need inside ourselves already: we have the power to imagine better.I am nearly finished. I have one last hope for you, which is something that I already had at 21. The friends with whom I sat on graduation day have been my friends for life. They are my children’s godparents, the people to whom I’ve been able toturn in times of trouble, friends who have been kind enough not to sue me when I’ve used their names for Death Eaters. At our graduation we were bound by enormous affection, by our shared experience of a time that could never come again, and, of course, by the knowledge that we held certain photographic evidence that would be exceptionally valuable if any of us ran for Prime Minister.So today, I can wish you nothing better than similar friendships. And tomorrow, I hope that even if you remember not a single word of mine, you remember those of Seneca, another of those old Romans I met when I fled down the Classics corridor, in retreat from career ladders, in search of ancient wisdom:毕业典礼英文演讲稿3You must believe in yourself and in your work. When our first Batman movie broke all those box-office records, I received a phone call from that United Artists exec who, years before, had told me I was out of my mind. Now he said, “Michael, Im just calling to congratulate you on the success of Batman. I always said you were a visionary.” You see the point here —dont believe them when they tell you how bad you are or how terrible your ideas are, but also, dont believe them when they tell you how wonderful you are and how great your ideas are. Just believe in yourself and youll do just fine. And, oh yes, dont then forget to market yourself and your ideas. Use both sides of your brain.You must have a high threshold for frustration. Take it from the guy who was turned down by every studio in Hollywood. You must knock on doors until your knuckles bleed. Doors will slam in your face. You must pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and knock again. Its the only way to achieve your goals in life.毕业典礼英文演讲稿4Sheryl Sandberg told a graduating class of Tsinghua University that great leaders want genuine enthusiasm, something she said her late husband, Dave Goldberg, always had.雪莉·桑德伯格鼓励清华大学毕业学子说,伟大的领袖需要“真正的激情”,而这一点她和她已故先生戴夫·哥德伯格(Dave Goldberg)一直怀有。

FaceBook桑德伯格:女性要想事业成功需要男人的支持

FaceBook桑德伯格:女性要想事业成功需要男人的支持

FaceBook桑德伯格:女性要想事业成功需要男人的支

FaceBook首席运营官雪莉·桑德伯格说过:
“如果希望另一半变成真正的人生搭档,首先得把对方看成与自己地位平等(也同样有能力)的好伙伴。

如果这么说理由还不充分,那就再加上一条研究结果:与在家务上与丈夫共同分担的女性相比,‘固守母职’的女性一周会多干5个小时的家务。


“伴侣的支持非常重要。

那种认为女性只有抛开家庭才能达到事业巅峰的说法其实并不成立。

事实证明,绝大多数的成功女性都拥有一位相当支持自己事业的人生伴侣。


“拥有一切”也许是女人遭遇的最大陷阱。

康奈尔大学的经济学教授莎伦·波兹特对此解释说,“拥有一切”这种过时的说法忽视了各种经济关系的基础——即交换的概念。

我们所有人都在进行人生的“约束优化”,试图在事业、孩子、关系等要素的基础上把自己的效
用最大化,竭尽全力去合理分配自己的时间资源。

由于资源稀缺,没有人能拥有一切。

如果非要有人这么说,那么他很可能是在撒谎。

什么是成功?“如果我必须为成功下个定义,那就是:成功,是为自己做出最好的选择,并且接受它们。


摘选桑德伯格著作《向前一步》里的一篇女性励志文章:女性要想事业成功,需要男人在家务上更进取
FaceBook桑德伯格:女性要想事业成功,需要男人在家务上更进取1。

雪莉桑德伯格演讲

雪莉桑德伯格演讲

(1)Congratulations everyone, you made itAnd I don't mean to the end of college, I mean to class daybecause if memory servessome of your classmates had too many scorpion bowls at the Kong last nightand are with us todayGiven the weatherthe one thing Harvard hasn't figured out how to controlsome of your other classmates are at someplace warm with a hot cocoaso you have many reasons to feel proud of yourself as you sit here today Congratulations to your parentsYou have spent a lot of moneyso your child can say she went to a "small school" near BostonAnd thank you to the class of 2014 for inviting me to be part of your celebration It means a great deal to meand looking at the list of past speakers was a little dauntingI can't be as funny as Amy Poehlerbut I'm gonna be funnier than Mother Teresa25 years agoa man named Dave I did not know at the time but who would one day become my husband was sitting where you are sitting today23 years agoI was sitting where you are sitting todayDave and I are back this weekendwith our amazing son and daughter to celebrate his reunionand we both share the same sentimentHarvard has a good basketball teamStanding here in the yard brings memories flooding back for meI arrived here from Miami in the fall of 1987with big hopes and even bigger hairI was assigned to live in one of Harvard's historic monuments to great architecture CanadayMy go-to outfit, and I'm not making this up, was a jean skirtwhite leg warmers and sneakers and a Florida sweaterbecause my parents who were here with me then as they're here with me nowtold me everyone would think it was awesome that I was from FloridaAt least we didn't have InstagramFor me, Harvard was a series of firstsMy first winter coat, we needn't need those in MiamiMy first 10 page paper, they didn't assign those in my high schoolMy first Cafter which my proctor told me that she was on the Admissions Committeeand I got admitted to Harvard for my personalitynot my academic potentialThe first person I ever met from boarding schoolI thought that was our really troubled kidsThe first person I ever met who shares the name with a whole buildingor so I met when the first classmate I met was Sarah Wigglesworthwho bore no relation at all to the dormwhich would have been nice to know with that very intimidating momentBut then I went on to meet othersFrancis Strauss, James WellsJessica Science Center BMy first love, my first heartbreakthe first time I realized that I love to learnand the first and very last time I saw anyone read anything in LatinWhen I sat in your seat all those years agoI knew exactly where I was headed. I had it all planned outI was going to the World Bank to work on global povertyThen I would go to law schoolAnd I would spend my life working in a nonprofit or in a governmentAt Harvard's commencement tomorrow as your dean describedeach school is gonna stand up and graduate togetherthe college, the law school, the med school and so onAt my graduation, my class cheered for the PhD studentsand then booed the business schoolBusiness school seemed like such a sellout18 months later, I applied to business schoolIt wasn't that I was wrong about what I would do decades after graduatingI had it wrong a year and a half laterAnd even if I could have predicted I would one day work in the private sector I never could have predicted Facebookbecause there was no internetand Mark Zuckerberg was at elementary schoolalready wearing his hoodyNot locking into a path too earlygave me an opportunity to go into a new and life changing fieldAnd for those of you who think I owe everything to good luckafter Canaday I got QuadedWhat's that? Barron(2)There is no straight path from your seat today to where you are goingDon't try to draw that line. You will not just get it wrongYou'll miss big opportunities and I mean big, like the InternetCareers are not ladders. Those days are long gonebut jungle gymsDon't just move up and down. Don't just look upLook backwards, sideways, around cornersYour career and your life will have starts and stops and zigs and zags Don't stress out about the white space, the path you can trybecause there in lives both the surprises and the opportunitiesAs you open yourself up to possibilitythe most important thing I can tell you todayis to open yourself up to honestyto telling the truth to each otherto being honest with yourselvesand to being honest about the world we live inIf you watched children, you will immediately notice how honest they are My friend Betsy was pregnant and her sonfor the second child, son Sam was 5he wanted to know where the baby was in her bodySo yes Mommy, are the babies arms in your arms?And she said, no no Sam, baby's in my tummywhole babyMom, are the baby's legs in your legs?No, Sam, whole baby's in my tummyThen Mommy, what's growing in your butt?As adultswe are almost never dishonestand that can be a very good thingWhen I was pregnant with our first childI asked my husband Dave if my butt was getting bigAt first, he didn't answer but I pressedSo he said, yeah, a littleFor years my sister-in-law said about him what peoplewill now say about you for the rest of your life when you do something doneand that guy went to HarvardHearing the truth at different times along the way would have helped meI would not have admitted it easily when I sat where you sitBut when I graduated, I was much more worried about my love life than my career I thought I only had a few years very limited time to find one of the good guys before he was to, or before they were all takenor I got too oldSo I moved to DC, and met with guyand I got married at the nearly decrepit age of 24I married a wonderful man but I had no business making that kind of commitment I didn't know who I was or who I wanted to beMy marriage fell apart within a yearsomething that was really embarrassing and painful at the timeand it did not help that so many friends came up to me and saidI never knew that, never thought that was going to work orI knew you weren't right for each otherNo one had managed to say anything like that to mebefore I marched down an aisle when it would have been far more usefulAnd as I lived through these painful months of separation and divorceboy, did I wish they had?And boy, did I wish I had asked them?At the same time in my professional life, someone did speak upMy first boss out of college was Lant Pritchettan economist who teaches at the Kennedy School who is here with us todayAfter I deferred to law school for the second timeLant sat me down and saidI don't think you should go to law school at allI don't think you want to go to law schoolI think you think you should because you told your parents you would many years ago He noted that he had never once heard me talk about the law with any interestI know how hard it can be to be honest with each othereven your closest friends, even when they're about to make serious mistakesbut I bet sitting here today, you know your closest friends' strength, weaknesses what cliff they might drive offand I bet for the most part you've never told themand they've never askedAsk themAsk them for the truth because it will help youand when they answer honestlyyou know that that's what makes them real friendsAsking for feedback is a really important habit to get intoas you leave the structure of the school calendar and exams and grades behindOn many jobs if you want to know how you're doingif you're going to have to ask andthen you're gonna have to listen without getting defensiveTake it from me, listening to criticism is never fun(3)but it's the only way we can improveA few years ago, Mark Zuckerberg decided he wanted to learn Chineseand in order to practicehe started trying to have work meetings with some ofour Facebook colleagues who are native speakersNow you would think his very limited language skillswould keep these conversations from being usefulOne day he asked a woman who was therehow it was going, how did you choose the FacebookShe answered with a long and pretty complicated sentenceSo he said, simpler pleaseShe spoke againSimpler pleaseThis went back and forth a couple of timesSo she is blurted out in frustration, my manager is badThat he understoodSo often the truth is sacrificed to conflict avoidanceor by the time we speak the truth, we've used so many caveatsand preambles that the message totally gets lostSo I ask you to ask each other for the truth and other peoplecan you list it in simple and clear language?And when you speak your truthcan you use simple and clear language?As hard as it is to be honest with other peopleit can be even more difficult to be honest with ourselvesFor years after I had childrenI would say pretty often I don't feel guilty working even when no one asked Someone might say, Sheryl, how's your day today?And I would say, great I don't feel guilty workingOr do I need a sweater?Yes, it's unpredictably freezing and I don't feel guilty workingI was kinda like a parrot with issuesThen one day on the treadmill, I was reading this article on Sociology Journal about how people don't start out lying to other peoplethey start out lying to themselvesand the things we repeat most frequentlyare often those liesSo the sweat was pouring down my faceI started wondering what do I repeat pretty frequentlyand I realized I feel guilty workingI then did a lot of researchand I spent an entire year with my dear friend Nell Scovellwriting a book talking about how I was thinking and feelingand I'm so grateful that so many women around the world connected to itMy book of course was called Fifty Shades of GreyI can see a lot of you connected to it as wellWe have even more work to do in being honest about the world we live inWe don't always see the hard truthsand once we see them, we don't always have the courage to speak outWhen my classmates and I were in collegewe thought that fight for gender equality was one that was overSure, most of the leaders in every industry were menbut we thought changing that was just a matter of timeLamont Library right over thereone generation before us didn't let women through its doorsBut by the time we sat in your seat, everything was equalHarvard and Radcliffe was fully integratedWe didn't need feminism because we were already equalsWe were wrongI was wrongThe world was not equal thenand it is not equal nowI think nowadayswe don't just hide ourselves from the hard truthand shut our eyes to the inequitiesbut we suffer from the tyranny of low expectationsIn the last election cycle in the United Stateswomen won 20% of the Senate seatsand all the headlines started screaming outwomen take over the SenateI felt like screaming back, wait a minute everyone50% of the population getting 20% of the seatsThat's not a takeover. That's an embarrassmentJust a few months ago this yeara very well respected and well-known business executives in Silicon Valley invited me to give a speech to his club on social mediaI've been to this club a few months before when Ihave been invited for a friend's birthdayIt was a beautiful building and I was wandering aroundlooking at it, looking for the women's room(4)when a staff member informed me very firmlythat the ladies' room was over thereand I should be sure not to go up stairsbecause women are never allowed in this buildingI didn't realize I was in an all-male club until that minuteI spent the rest of the night wondering what I was doing therewondering what everyone else was doing therewondering if any of my friends in San Francisco would invite me toa party at a club that didn't allow Blacks or Jews or Asians or gaysBeing invited to give a business speech at this clubhit me even more egregiousbecause you couldn't claim that it was only social business that was done there My first thought was, "Really?"ReallyA year after "Lean In"this dude thought it was a good ideato invite me to give a speech to his literal all-boys clubAnd he wasn't alonethere is an entire committee of well respected businessmanwho joined him in issuing this kind invitationTo paraphrase Groucho Marxand don't worry, I won't try to do the voiceI don't want to speak in any club that won't have me as a memberSo I said noand I did it in a way I probably wouldn't have even 5 years beforeI wrote a long and passionate emailarguing that they should change their policiesThey thanked me for my prompt response and wrote thatperhaps things will eventually changeOur expectations are too lowEventually needs to become immediatelyWe need to see the truth and speak the truthWe tolerate discrimination and we pretend that opportunity is equalYes we elected an African-American presidentbut racism is pervasive stillYes, there are women who run Fortune 500 companies5 percent to be precisebut our road there is still paved with words like pussy and bossywhile our male peers are leaders and results focusedAfrican-American women have to prove that they're not angryLatinos risk being branded fiery hot headA group of Asian-American women and men in Facebookwore pins one day that said I may or may not be good enoughYes, Harvard has a woman presidentand in two years, the United States may have a woman president(5)But in order to get thereHillary Clinton is gonna have to overcome 2 very real obstaclesunknown and often ununderstood gender biasand even worse, a degree from YaleYou can challenge stereotypes that's subtle and obviousAt Facebook, we have posters around the wall to inspire usDone is better than perfectFortune favors the bold. What would you do if you weren't afraid?My new favoritenothing at Facebook is someone else's problemI hope you feel that way about the problems you see in the worldbecause they are not someone else's problemGender inequality harms men along with womenRacism hurts Whites along with MinoritiesAnd the lack of equal opportunity keeps all of usfrom failing our true potentialSo as you graduate todayI want to put some pressure on youI want to put some pressure on you to acknowledge the hard truthsnot shy away from themand when you see them to address themThe first time I spoke out about what it was like to be a woman in the workforce was less than five years agoThat means that for 18 years from where you sit to where I standmy silence implied that everything was okayYou can do better than I didAnd I mean that so sincerelyAt the same timeI want to take some pressure off youSitting here today you don't have toknow what career you want or how to get the career you might wantLeaning in does not mean your path will be straight or smoothand most people who make great contribution start way later than Mark ZuckerbergFind a jungle gym you want to play and start climbingnot only will you figure out what you want to do eventuallybut once you do, you'll crush itLooking at you all here todayI'm filled with hopeAll of you who were admitted to a "small school" near Boston either for your academic potential or your personality or both you've had your first, whether it's a winter coat, a love or a C you've learned more about who you are and who you want to be And most importantlyyou've experienced the power of communityyou know that while you are extraordinary on your ownwe are all stronger and can be louder togetherI know that you will never forget Harvardand Harvard will never forget youespecially during the next fundraising driveTomorrowyou all become part of a lifelong communitywhich offers truly great opportunityand therefore comes with real obligationYou can make the world fair for everyoneexpect honesty from yourself and each otherdemand and create truly equal opportunitynot eventually, but nowAnd tomorrow by the wayyou get something Mark Zuckerberg does not havea Harvard degreeCongratulations, everyone。

雪莉桑德伯格在哈佛2014年毕业典礼上的演讲

雪莉桑德伯格在哈佛2014年毕业典礼上的演讲

雪莉桑德伯格在哈佛2014年毕业典礼上的演讲雪莉桑德伯格在哈佛2014年毕业典礼上的演讲祝贺所有人~你们做到了。

我指的不是大学毕业~而你们成功出席今天的毕业典礼。

如果我没记错~某些同学虽然昨晚在香港具厅喝了太多蝎子碗调酒~但今天还是来了。

由于天气~这种哈佛还没有弄清如何控制的现象~还胡同学正在温暖的地方喝热可可饮料。

所以~你们有很多为今天出席毕业日活动感到自豪的理由。

祝贺你们的家长~你们花了很多钱~让子女能够说自己是从波士顿附近的这所“小学校”毕业的。

还要感谢2014届毕业生邀请我来到这次盛典。

这对我价值巨大。

看到过往演讲者的名单让人有些敬畏~我肯定没有艾米波乐那么搞笑~但我至少比特雷萨修女更幽默。

25年前~一个当时还不认识~但以后成为我丈夫的男人戴夫~从在你们现在从的地方。

23年前~我从在你们现在从的地方。

戴夫和我这个周末~带着可爱的子女回校~我们都有相同的三角:哈佛的篮球队太棒了:站在校园中~回忆泉涌。

1987年的秋天~我从迈阿密来到这里~怀揣着伟大的梦想~还胡更夸张的发型。

我被分配到哈佛伟大建筑的一座历史丰碑~卡纳迪楼~我是说真的~我当时穿着牛仔裙~白色暖裤袜套~运动鞋~还有一件弗罗里达羊毛衫。

因为当时我的父母告诉我~所有人都会认为来自弗里达的人很酷。

至少~我们那时没有。

对我而言~哈佛给了我很多第一次~包括我的第一件冬装~在迈阿密没有人需要冬装。

我的第一份10页的论文~高中没有人会布置这么长的作业。

我第一次得C~这之后~我的学监告诉我说~她在招生委员会~她招我进来不是因为我的学术潜能~而是因为我的品性。

我在寄宿学校看到的第一个人~我就觉得这个人会是个大麻烦。

我还碰到了第一个名字同整座建筑一样的人~这个人名字叫做萨拉威格尔斯沃斯~她和那栋宿舍楼没有关系~当时我很震惊~知道她和宿舍楼没有关系后~我松了一口气。

之后~我还碰到了其他人~弗朗西斯斯特劳斯~詹姆斯威尔斯~杰西卡科学中心B。

我第一们爱~第一们让我心碎的人。

2016年毕业演Facebook桑德伯格UCB大学演讲--我从死亡中学到的东西

2016年毕业演Facebook桑德伯格UCB大学演讲--我从死亡中学到的东西

2016年毕业演讲:Facebook桑德伯格UCB大学演讲--我从死亡中学到的东西【演讲简介】Facebook COO 谢丽尔·桑德伯格(Sheryl Sandberg)5月14日在加州大学伯克利分校(UC Berkeley)的毕业典礼上发表的演讲,在这次演讲中,她首次公开谈论丈夫一年前的突然离世与自己的心路历程。

这对于她来说是一个勇敢的选择。

在演讲过程中,谈及她数度哽咽。

马克·扎克伯格在桑德伯格这篇演讲的下面评论:“如此美丽而又激励人心,谢谢你。

“UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA, BERKELEY 2016 CommencementAddressThank you, Marie. And thank you esteemed members of the faculty, proud parents, devoted friends, squirming siblings.Congratulations to all of you…and especially to the magnificent Berkeley graduating class of 2016!It is a privilege to be here at Berkeley, which has produced so many Nobel Prize winners, Turing Award winners, astronauts, members of Congress, Olympic gold medalists…. and that’s just the women!Berkeley has always been ahead of the times. In the 1960s, you led the Free Speech Movement. Back in those days, people used to say that with all the long hair, how do we even tell the boys from the girls? We now know the answer: manbuns.Early on, Berkeley opened its doors to the entire population. When this campus opened in 1873, the class included 167 men and 222 women. It took my alma mater another ninety years to award a single degree to a single woman.One of the women who came here in search of opportunity was Rosalind Nuss. Roz grew up scrubbing floors in the Brooklyn boardinghouse where she lived. She was pulled out of high school by her parents to help support their family. One of her teachers insisted that her parents put her back into school—and in 1937, she sat where you are sitting today and received a Berkeley degree. Roz was my grandmother. She was a huge inspiration to me and I’m so grateful that Berkeley recognized her potential. I want to take a moment to offer a special congratulations to the many here today who are the first generation in their families to graduate from college. What a remarkable achievement.Today is a day of celebration. A day to celebrate all the hard work that got you to this moment.Today is a day of thanks. A day to thank those who helped you get here—nurtured you, taught you, cheered you on, and dried your tears. Or at least the ones who didn’t draw on you with a Sharpie when you fell asleep at a party.Today is a day of reflection. Because today marks the end of one era of your life and the beginning of something new.A commencement address is meant to be a dance between youth and wisdom. You have the youth. Someone comes in to be the voice of wisdom—that’s supposed to be me. I stand up here and tell you all the things I have learned in life, you throw your cap in the air, you let your family take a million photos –don’t forget to post them on Instagram —and everyone goes home happy.Today will be a bit different. We will still do the caps and you still have to do the photos. But I am not here to tell you all the things I’ve le arned in life. Today I will try to tell you what I learned in death.I have never spoken publicly about this before. It’s hard. But I will do my very best not to blow my nose on this beautiful Berkeley robe.One year and thirteen days ago, I lost my husband, Dave. His death was sudden and unexpected. We were at a friend’s fiftieth birthday party in Mexico.I took a nap. Dave went to work out. What followed was the unthinkable—walking into a gym to find him lying on the floor. Flying home to tell my children that their father was gone. Watching his casket being lowered into the ground.For many months afterward, and at many times since, I was swallowed up in the deep fog of grief—what I think of as the void—an emptiness that fills your heart, your lungs, constricts your ability to think or even to breathe.Dave’s death changed me in very profound ways. I learned about the depths of sadness and the brutality of loss. But I also learned that when life sucks you under, you can kick against the bottom, break the surface, and breathe again. I learned that in the face of the void—or in the face of any challenge—you can choose joy and meaning.I’m sharing this with you in the hopes that today, as you take the next step in your life, you can learn the lessons that I only learned in death. Lessons about hope, strength, and the light within us that will not be extinguished.Everyone who has made it through Cal has already experienced some disappointment. You wanted an A but you got a B. OK, let’s be honest—you got an A- b ut you’re still mad. You applied for an internship at Facebook, but you only got one from Google. She was the love of your life… but then she swiped left.Game of Thrones the show has diverged way too much from the books—and you bothered to read all four thousand three hundred and fifty-two pages. You will almost certainly face more and deeper adversity. There’s loss of opportunity: the job that doesn’t work out, the illness or accident that changes everything in an instant. There’s loss of dignity: the sharp sting of prejudicewhen it happens. There’s loss of love: the broken relationships that can’t be fixed. And sometimes there’s loss of life itself.Some of you have already experienced the kind of tragedy and hardship that leave an indelible mark. Last year, Radhika, the winner of the University Medal, spoke so beautifully about the sudden loss of her mother.The question is not if some of these things will happen to you. They will. Today I want to talk about what happens next. About the things you can do to overcome adversity, no matter what form it takes or when it hits you. The easy days ahead of you will be easy. It is the hard days—the times that challenge you to your very core—that will determine who you are. You will be defined not just by what you achieve, but by how you survive.A few weeks after Dave died, I was talking to my friend Phil about a father-son activity that Dave was not here to do. We came up with a plan to fill in for Dave.I cried to him, “But I want Dave.“ Phil put his arm around me and said, “Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of option B.“We all at some point live some form of option B. The question is: What do we do then?As a representative of Silicon Valley, I’m pleased to tell you there is data to learn from. After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks, psychologist Martin Seligman found that there are three P’s—personalization, pervasiveness, and permanence—that are critical to how we bounce back from hardship. The seeds of resilience are planted in the way we process the negative events in our lives.The first P is personalization—the belief that we are at fault. This is different from taking responsibility, which you should always do. This is the lesson that not everything that happens to us happens because of us.When Dave died, I had a very common reaction, which was to blame myself. He died in seconds from a cardiac arrhythmia. I poured over his medical records asking what I could have—or should have—done. It wasn’t until I lear ned about the three P’s that I accepted that I could not have prevented his death. His doctors had not identified his coronary artery disease. I was an economics major; how could I have?Studies show that getting past personalization can actually make you stronger. Teachers who knew they could do better after students failed adjusted their methods and saw future classes go on to excel. College swimmers who underperformed but believed they were capable of swimming faster did. Not taking failures personally allows us to recover—and even to thrive.The second P is pervasiveness—the belief that an event will affect all areas of your life. You know that song “Everything is awesome?“ This is the flip: “Everything is awful.“ There’s no place to run or hide from the all-consuming sadness.The child psychologists I spoke to encouraged me to get my kids back to their routine as soon as possible. So ten days after Dave died, they went back to school and I went back to work. I remember sitting in my first Facebook meetingin a deep, deep haze. All I could think was, “What is everyone talking about and how could this possibly matter?“ But then I got drawn into the discussion and for a second—a brief split second—I forgot about death.That brief second helped me see that there were other things in my life that were not awful. My children and I were healthy. My friends and family were so loving and they carried us—quite literally at times.The loss of a partner often has severe negative financial consequences, especially for women. So many single mothers—and fathers—struggle to make ends meet or have jobs that don’t allow them the time they need to care for their children. I had financial security, the ability to take the time off I needed, and a job that I did not just believ e in, but where it’s actually OK to spend all day on Facebook. Gradually, my children started sleeping through the night, crying less, playing more.The third P is permanence—the belief that the sorrow will last forever. For months, no matter what I did, it felt like the crushing grief would always be there. We often project our current feelings out indefinitely—and experience what I think of as the second derivative of those feelings. We feel anxious—and then we feel anxious that we’re anxious. We feel sad—and then we feel sad that we’re sad. Instead, we should accept our feelings—but recognize that they will not last forever. My rabbi told me that time would heal but for now I should “lean in to the suck.“ It was good advice, but not really what I meant by“lean in.“None of you need me to explain the fourth P…which is, of course, pizza from Cheese Board.But I wish I had known about the three P’s when I was your age. There were so many times these lessons would have helped.Day one of my first job out of c ollege, my boss found out that I didn’t know how to enter data into Lotus 1-2-3. That’s a spreadsheet—ask your parents. His mouth dropped open and he said, ‘I can’t believe you got this job without knowing that“—and then walked out of the room. I went home convinced that I was going to be fired. I thought I was terrible at everything… but it turns out I was only terrible at spreadsheets. Understanding pervasiveness would have saved me a lot of anxiety that week.I wish I had known about permanence when I broke up with boyfriends. It would’ve been a comfort to know that feeling was not going to last forever, and if I was being honest with myself… neither were any of those relationships. And I wish I had understood personalization when boyfriends broke up with me. Sometimes it’s not you—it really is them. I mean, that dude never showered. And all three P’s ganged up on me in my twenties after my first marriage ended in divorce. I thought at the time that no matter what I accomplished, I was a massive failure.T he three P’s are common emotional reactions to so many things that happen to us—in our careers, our personal lives, and our relationships. You’re probably feeling one of them right now about something in your life. But if you can recognize you are falling into these traps, you can catch yourself. Just as ourbodies have a physiological immune system, our brains have a psychological immune system—and there are steps you can take to help kick it into gear. One day my friend Adam Grant, a psychologist, suggested that I think about how much worse things could be. This was completely counterintuitive; it seemed like the way to recover was to try to find positive thoughts. “Worse?“ I said. “Are you kidding me? How could things be worse?“ His answer cut straight th rough me: “Dave could have had that same cardiac arrhythmia while he was driving your children.“ Wow. The moment he said it, I was overwhelmingly grateful that the rest of my family was alive and healthy. That gratitude overtook some of the grief.Finding gratitude and appreciation is key to resilience. People who take the time to list things they are grateful for are happier and healthier. It turns out that counting your blessings can actually increase your blessings. My New Year’s resolution this year is to write down three moments of joy before I go to bed each night. This simple practice has changed my life. Because no matter what happens each day, I go to sleep thinking of something cheerful. Try it. Start tonight when you have so many fun moments to list— although maybe do it before you hit Kip’s and can still remember what they are.Last month, eleven days before the anniversary of Dave’s death, I broke down crying to a friend of mine. We were sitting—of all places—on a bathroom floor. I said: “Eleven days. One year ago, he had eleven days left. And we had no idea.“ We looked at each other through tears, and asked how we would live if we knew we had eleven days left.As you graduate, can you ask yourselves to live as if you had eleven days left?I don’t mean blow everything off and party all the time— although tonight is an exception. I mean live with the understanding of how precious every single day would be. How precious every day actually is.A few years ago, my mom had to have her hip replaced. When she was younger, she always walked without pain. But as her hip disintegrated, each step became painful. Now, even years after her operation, she is grateful for every step she takes without pain—something that never would have occurred to her before.As I stand here today, a year after the worst day of my life, two things are true.I have a huge reservoir of sadness that is with me always—right here where I can touch it. I never knew I could cry so often—or so much.But I am also aware that I am walking without pain. For the first time, I am grateful for each breath in and out—grateful for the gift of life itself. I used to celebrate my birthday every five years and friends’ birthdays sometimes. Now I celebrate always. I used to go to sleep worrying about all the things I messed up that day—and trust me that list was often quite long. Now I try really hard to focus on each day’s moments of joy.It is the greatest irony of my life that losing my husband helped me find deeper gratitude—gratitude for the kindness of my friends, the love of my family, the laughter of my children. My hope for you is that you can find that gratitude—notjust on the good days, like today, but on the hard ones, when you will really need it.There are so many moments of joy ahead of you. That trip you always wanted to take. A first kiss with someone you really like. The day you get a job doing something you truly believe in. Beating Stanford. (Go Bears!) All of these things will happen to you. Enjoy each and every one.I hope that you live your life—each precious day of it—with joy and meaning. I hope that you walk without pain—and that you are grateful for each step.And when the challenges come, I hope you remember that anchored deep within you is the ability to learn and grow. You are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. Like a muscle, you can build it up, draw on it when you need it. In that process you will figure out who you really are—and you just might become the very best version of yourself.Class of 2016, as you leave Berkeley, build resilience.Build resilience in yourselves. When tragedy or disappointment strike, know that you have the ability to get through absolutely anything. I promise you do. As the saying goes, we are more vulnerable than we ever thought, but we are stronger than we ever imagined.Build resilient organizations. If anyone can do it, you can, because Berkeley is filled with people who want to make the world a better place. Never stop working to do so—whether it’s a boardroom that is not representat ive or a campus that’s not safe. Speak up, especially at institutions like this one, which you hold so dear. My favorite poster at work reads, “Nothing at Facebook is someone else’s problem.“ When you see something that’s broken, go fix it. Build resilient communities. We find our humanity—our will to live and our ability to love—in our connections to one another. Be there for your family and friends. And I mean in person. Not just in a message with a heart emoji.Lift each other up, help each other kick the shit out of option B—and celebrate each and every moment of joy.You have the whole world in front of you. I can’t wait to see what you do with it. Congratulations, and Go Bears!谢谢玛丽。

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原文:It’s an honor to be here today to address HBS’s distinguished faculty, proud parents, patient guests, and most importantly, the class of 2012.Today was supposed to be a day of unbridled celebration and I know that’s no longer true. I join all of you in grieving for your classmate Nate. There are no words which can make this better.Though laden with sadness, today still marks a distinct and impressive achievement for this class. So please join me in giving our warmest congratulations to this class. When Dean Nohria asked me to speak here today, I thought, come talk to a group of people way younger and cooler than I am? I can do that. I do that every day at Facebook. I like being surrounded by young people, except when they say to me, “What was it like being in college without the internet?” or worse,” Sheryl, can you come here? We need to see what old people think of this feature.”When I was a student here 17 years ago, I studied social marketing with Professor Kash Rangan. One of the many examples Kash used to explain the concept of social marketing was the lack of organ donors in this country, which kills 18 people every single day. Earlier this month, Facebook launched a tool to support organ donations, something that stems directly from Kash’s work. Kash, we are all grateful for your dedication.SANDBERG’S HARVARD SECTION TRIED TO HAVE THE SCHOOL’S FIRST ONLINE CLASSIt wasn’t really that long ago when I was sitting where you are, but the world has changed an awful lot. My section, section B, t ried to have HBS’s first online class. We had to use an AOL chat room and dial up service. (Your parents can explain to you later what dial-up service is.) We had to pass out a list of screen names because it was unthinkable to put your real name on the internet. And it never worked. It kept crashing. The world just wasn’t set up for 90 people to communicate at once online. But for a few brief moments, we glimpsed the future –a future where technology would power who we are and connect us to our real colleagues, our real family, our real friends.It used to be that in order to reach more people than you could talk to in a day, you had to be rich and famous and powerful. You had to be a celebrity, a politician, a CEO. But that’s not true today. Now ordinary people have voice, not just those of us lucky to go to HBS, but anyone with access to Facebook, Twitter, a mobile phone.This is disrupting traditional power structures and leveling traditional hierarchy. Control and power are shifting from institutions to individuals, from the historically powerful to the historically powerless. And all of this is happening so much faster than I could have imagined when I was sitting where you are today –and Mark Zuckerberg was 11 years old.‘WE WOULDN’T EVEN THINK ABOUT HIRING SOMEONE LIKE YOU’As the world becomes more connected and less hierarchical, traditional career paths are shifting as well. In 2001, after working in the government, I moved out to Silicon Valley to try to find a job. My timing wasn’t really that g ood. The bubble had crashed. Small companies were closing. Big companies were laying people off. One CEO looked at me and said, “we wouldn’t even think about hiring someone like you.”After a while I had a few offers and I had to make a decision, so what did I do? I am MBA trained, so I made a spreadsheet. I listed my jobs in the columns and my criteria in the rows. One of the jobs on that sheet was to become Google’s first Business Unit general manager, which sounds good now, but at the time no one thought consumer internet companies could ever make money. I was not sure there was actually a job there at all; Google had no business units, so what was there to generally manage? And the job was several levels lower than jobs I was being offered at other companies.So I sat down with Eric Schmidt, who had just become the CEO, and I showed him the spreadsheet and I said, this job meets none of my criteria. He put his hand on my spreadsheet and he looked at me and said, “Don’t be an idiot.”EXCELLENT CAREER ADV ICE: ‘GET ON A ROCKET SHIP’Excellent career advice. And then he said, “Get on a rocket ship. When companies are growing quickly and having a lot of impact, careers take care of themselves. And when companies aren’t growing quickly or their missions don’t matter as much, that’s when stagnation and politics come in. If you’re offered a seat on a rocket ship, don’t ask what seat. Just get on.”About six and one-half years later, when I was leaving Google, I took that advice to heart. I was offered CEO jobs at a bunch of companies, but I went to Facebook as COO. At the time people said, why are you going to work for a 23-year-old?THE METAPHOR FOR A CAREER IS NO LONGER A LADDER; IT’S A JUNGLE GYMThe traditional metaphor for careers is a ladder, but I no longer think that metaphor holds. It just doesn’t make sense in a less hierarchical world. When I was first at Facebook, a woman named Lori Goler, a 1997 graduate of HBS, was working in marketing at eBay and I knew her a bit socially. She called me and said, “I want to talk with you about coming to work with you at Facebook. So I thought about callingyou and telling you all the things I’m good at and all the things I like to do. But I figured that everyone is doing that. So instead I want to know what’s your big gest problem and how can I solve it?”My jaw hit the floor. I’d hired thousands of people up to that point in my career, but no one had ever said anything like that. I had never said anything like that. Job searches are always about the job searcher, but n ot in Lori’s case. I said, “You’re hired. My biggest problem is recruiting and you can solve it.” So Lori changed fields into something she never thought she’d do, went down a level to start in a new field. She has since been promoted and runs all of People Operations at Facebook and is doing an extraordinary job.Lori has a great metaphor for careers. She says they’re not a ladder, they’re a jungle gym.LOOK FOR GROWTH, IMPACT AND MISSION. MOVE SIDEWAYS, DOWN, ON AND OFFAs you start your post-HBS career, look for opportunities, look for growth, look for impact, look for mission. Move sideways, move down, move on, move off. Build your skills, not your resume. Evaluate what you can do, not the title they’re going to give you. Do real work. Take a sales quota, a line role, an ops job. Don’t plan too much, and don’t expect a direct climb. If I had mapped out my career when I was sitting where you are, I would have missed my career.You are entering a different business world than I entered. Mine was just starting to get connected. Yours is hyper-connected. Mine was competitive. Yours is way more competitive. Mine moved quickly, yours moves even more quickly.As traditional structures are breaking down, leadership has to evolve as well – from hierarchy to shared responsibility, from command and control to listening and guiding. You’ve been trained by this great institution not just to be part of these trends, but to lead.As you lead in this new world, you will not be able to rely on who you are or the degree you hold. You’ll have to rely on what you know. Your strength will not come from your place on some org chart, but from building trust and earning respect. You’re going to need talent, skill, and imagination and vision. But more than anything else, you’re goi ng to need the ability to communicate authentically, to speak so that you inspire the people around you and to listen so that you continue to learn each and every day on the job.‘MOMMY, WHAT IS GROWING IN YOUR BUTT?’If you watch young children, you’ll im mediately notice how honest they are. My friend Betsy from my section a few years after business school was pregnant with her second child. Her first child was about five and said, “Mommy, where is the baby?” She said, “The baby is in my tummy.” He said, ‘Aren’t the baby’s arms in your arms?” She said, “No, the baby’s in my tummy.” “Are the baby’s legs in your legs?” “No, the whole baby is in my tummy.” Then he said, ‘Then Mommy, what is growingin your butt?”As adults, we are never this honest. And that’s not a bad thing. I have borne two children and the last thing I needed were those comments. But it’s not always a good thing either. Because all of us, and especially leaders, need to speak and hear the truth.The workplace is an especially difficult place for anyone to tell the truth, because no matter how flat we want our organizations to be, all organizations have some form of hierarchy. This means that one person’s performance is assessed by someone else’s perception.This is not a setup for honesty. Think about how people speak in a typical workforce. Rather than say, “I disagree with our expansion strategy” or better yet, “this seems truly stupid.” They say, “I think there are many good reasons why we’re entering this new line of business, and I’m certain the management team has done a thorough ROI analysis, but I’m not sure we have fully considered the downstream effects of taking this step forward at this time.” As we would say at Facebook, three letters: WTF.‘TRUTH IS BETTER USED BY USING SIMPLE LANGUAGE’Truth is better used by using simple language. Last year, Mark decided to learn Chinese and as part of studying, he would spend an hour or so each week with some of our employees who were native Chinese speakers. One day, one of them was trying to tell him something about her manager. She said this long sentence and he said, “simpler please.” And then she said it again and he said, “no, I still don’t understand, simpler please”…and so on and so on. Finally, in sheer exasperation, she burst out, “my manager is bad.” Simple and clear and very important for him to know.People rarely speak this clearly in the workforce or in life. And as you get more senior, not only will people speak less clearly to you but they will overreact to the small things you say. When I joined Facebook, one of the things I had to do was build the business side of the company and put some systems into place. But I wanted to do it without destroying the culture that made Facebook great. So one of the things I tried to do was encourage people not to do formal PowerPoint presentations for meetings with me. I would say things like, “Don’t do PowerPoint presentations for meetings with me. Instead, come in with a list of what you want to discuss.” But everyone ignored me and they kept doing their presentations meeting after meeting, month after month. So about two years in, I said, “OK, I hate rules but I have a rule: no more PowerPoint in my meetings.”About a month later I was about to speak to our global sales team on a big stage and someone came up to me and said, “Before you get on that stage, you really should know everyone’s pretty upset about the no PowerPoint with clients thing.” So I got on the stage and said, “one, I meant no PowerPoint with me. But two, more importantly,next time you hear something that’s really stupid, don’t adhere to it. Fight it or ignore it, even if it’s coming from me or Mark.”A good leader recognizes that most people won’t feel comfortable challenging authority, so it falls upon authority to encour age them to question. It’s easy to say that you’re going to encourage feedback but it’s hard to do, because unfortunately it doesn’t always come in a format we want to hear.‘BEING PART OF MY TEAM MEANT THAT I HAD TO KNOW YOU’When I first started at Google, I had a team of four people and it was really important to me that I interview everyone. For me, being part of my team meant I had to know you. When the team had grown to about 100 people, I realized it was taking longer to schedule my interviews. So one day at my meeting of just my direct reports, I said “maybe I should stop interviewing”, fully expecting them to jump in and say “no, your interviews are a critical part of the process.” They applauded. Then they fell over themselves explaining that I was the bottleneck of all time. I was embarrassed. Then I was angry and I spent a few hours just quietly fuming. Why didn’t they tell me I was a bottleneck? Why did they let me go on slowing them down? Then I realized that if they hadn’t told me, it was my fault. I hadn’t convinced them that I wanted that feedback and I would have to change that going forward.When you’re the leader, it is really hard to get good and honest feedback, no many how many times you ask for it. One trick I’ve discovered is that I t ry to speak really openly about the things I’m bad at, because that gives people permission to agree with me, which is a lot easier than pointing it out in the first place. To take one of many possible examples, when things are unresolved I can get a tad anxious. Really, when anything’s unresolved, I get anxious. I’m quite certain no one has accused me of being too calm. So I speak about it openly and that gives people permission to tell me when it’s happening. But if I never said anything, would anyone who works at Facebook walk up to me and say, “Hey Sheryl, calm down. You’re driving us all nuts!” I don’t think so.‘WHEN YOU GET HONESTY BACK, WILL YOU REACT WITH ANGER OR WITH GRATITUDE?’As you graduate today, ask yourself, how will you lead. Will you use simple and clear language? Will you seek out honesty? When you get honesty back, will you react with anger or with gratitude?As we strive to be more authentic in our communication, we should also strive to be more authentic in a broader sense. I talk a lot about bringing your whole self to work—something I believe in deeply.Motivation comes from working on things we care about. But it also comes from working with people we care about. And in order to care about someone, you have to know them. You have to know what they love and hate, what they feel, not just what they think. If you want to win hearts and minds, you have to lead with your heart as well as your mind. I don’t believe we have a professional self from Mondays throughFridays and a real self for the rest of the time. That kind of division probably never worked, but in today’s world, with real and authentic voice, it makes even less sense. CRYING AT WORK: YES, SHE’S DONE IT BUT NOT EXACTLY ON ZUCKERBERG’S SHOULDERI’ve cried at work. I’ve told people I’ve cried at work. And it’s been reported in the press that ‘Sheryl Sandberg cried on Mark Zuckerberg’s shoulder’, which is not exactly what happened. I talk about my hopes and fears and ask people about theirs. I try to be myself – honest about my strengths and weaknesses – and I encourage others to do the same. It is all professional and it is all personal, all at the very same time.I recently started speaking up about the challenges women face in the workforce, something I only had the courage to do in the last few years. Before this, I did my career like everyone else does it. I never told anyone I was a girl. Don’t tell. I left the lights on when I went home to do something for my kids . I locked my office door and pumped milk for my babies while I was on conference calls. People would ask, “what’s that sound?” I would say, “What sound?” “I hear a beep.” “Oh, there’s a fire truck outside my office.”But the lack of progress over the past decade has convinced me we need to start talking about this. I graduated from HBS in 1995 and I thought it was completely clear that by the time someone from my year was invited to speak at this podium, we would have achieved equality in the workforce. But women at the top — C-level jobs — are stuck at 15-16 percent and have not moved in a decade. Not even close to 50% and no longer growing. We need to acknowledge openly that gender remains an issue at the highest levels of leadership. The promise of equality is not equality. We need to start talking about this.‘AS A WOMAN IS MORE SUCCESSFUL IN YOUR WORKPLACES, SHE WILL BE LESS LIKED’We need to start talking about how women underestimate their abilities compared to men and how for women, but not men, success and likeability are negatively correlated. That means that as a woman is more successful in your workplaces, she will be less liked. This means that women need a different form of management and mentorship, a different form of sponsorship and encouragement than men.There aren’t enough senior women out there to do it, so it falls upon the men who are graduating today just as much or more as the women, not just to talk about gender but to help these women succeed. When they hear a woman is really great at her job but not liked, take a deep breath and ask why.We need to start talking openly about the flexibility all of us need to have both a job and a life. A couple of weeks ago in an interview I said that I leave the office at 5:30 p.m. to have dinner with my children. I was shocked at the press coverage. One of my friends said I couldn’t get more headlines if I had murdered someone with an ax. This showed me this is an unresolved issue for all of us, men and women alike. Otherwise, everyone would not write so much about it.‘WE NEED MORE WOMEN NOT JUST TO SIT AT T HE TABLE, BUT TO TAKE THEIR RIGHTFUL SEATS’And maybe, most importantly, we need to start talking about how fewer women than men, even from places like HBS, even likely in this class, aspire to the very top jobs. We will not close the leadership gap until we close the professional ambition gap. We need more women not just to sit at the table, but as President Obama said a few weeks ago at Barnard, to take their rightful seats at the head of the table.One of the reasons I was so excited to be here today is that this is the 50th anniversary of letting women into this school. Dean Noria, who is so passionate about getting more women into leadership positions, told me that he wanted me to speak this year for that reason. I met a woman from that first class once. She told me that when they first came in, they took a men’s room and converted it to a woman’s room. But they left the urinals in. She thought the message was clear –‘we are not sure this whole woman thing is going to work out and if not, we don’t want to have to reinstall the urinals.’ The urinals are long gone. Let’s make sure that no one ever misses them. FOUR THINGS SANDBERG WISHES FOR HARVARD’S GRADUATING CLASS OF 2012As you and your classmates spread out across the globe and walk across this stage tomorrow, I wish for you four things: First, keep in touch via Facebook. This is critical to your future success! And since we’re public now, why you are there, click on an ad or two. Two, that you make the effort to speak as well as seek the truth. Three, that you remain true to and open about your authentic self. And four, that your generation accomplishes what mine has failed to do. Give us a world where half our homes are run by men and half our institutions are run by women. I’m pretty sure that would be a better world.I join everyone here in offering my most sincere congratulations to the HBS Class of 2012. Give yourselves a huge round of applause.译文:今天很高兴来到哈佛商学院为各位老师,家长,贵宾,尤其是各位2012届同学做演讲。

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