网易公开课幸福课笔记

第一节课笔记1.幸福课的研究属于积极心理学研究范畴2.重新可能形成一种学习记忆机制，包括学习、理解、记忆、保留，所以休息时间的重要性不可被忽视3.这节课不仅是包括信息还包括transformationinformation:we have a container which is our mindinformation is about taking data,taking science ,taking information and putting it inside the formTransformation: is about taking this form and changing itIn other words,it's not just the information that goes in .It's also the shape,the interpretation,the preception and the focus,and that is determined by the shape of the form.Knowledge is about informationWisdom is about trannformation.4.soul grows more by subtraction than by addition做减法比做加法让灵魂成长的更快本项课程的关键是让人们突破那些枷锁In pursuit of knowledge,everyday something is acquired;in pursuit of wisdom,every day something is dropped.rmation is always better than ignorance,what is wrong is the belief behind the information,the belief that information will change the world6.saying the biggest mistake is not asking the right questions.Asking questions is very important7.what is most personal is most general.8.why positive psychology?(1)the importance of focusing on what works.(2)happiness is not the negation of unhappiness.(3)prevention through cultivating capacity.第二节课：why we should study this course? Reason one questions create reality1 以下是那些孩子共同有的特征。

RESILIENCE: Optimistic - believe things would work out well ;Have faith and a sense of meaning of life - doing something you really believe in - to be idealistic is to be realistic ;Pro-social beheavior - help others as well as self-help; Focus on strength - what am I really good at? ;Set goals, future-oriented - what do I want to be in 5 years? ;Have a role model - I want to be like him, her, fictional figure, anything. - this role model gives strength and sense of direction ;Have social support - tough enough to reach out for help2.All those familiar with the history of science are aware that important advances come with the formulation of the new question.The question is the breakthrough.the answer comes with difficulty3.the consequences of this ability to focus that is not always good it's not always helpfulBut if that is the only qustion that we ask that is the only thing that we will see.The only things that we will see are our deficiencies the things that are not working,the things that need to be proved,the weakness of my partner ,of the ralationship Conclusion:A person who only or primarily focuses on weaknesses and does not see,does not aprreciate their strength,their passions,virtues can't be a person like that experience high levels of self-respect,self-confidence,happiness.If we don't also ask the positive question,that part of reality will not exist as far as we are concernedReason 1 Qustions create the reality,focus create the reality4.when we appreciate the good,the good appreciates5 understanding that you have to take responsiblility for your life is recognizing understanding that no one is coming.? Tal 说：学习的最好方法是教11人喜欢喜欢2011-02-11 11:31:24 五月十年(做一个潇洒的人)第三节课Reason 2 it's about happiness is not just a negation of unhappiness1.happiness don't spontanesously emerge once the painful experiences go away.2.Posivieve psychology essentially focuses on the health model,Salutogenesis.What is the source of health physical,psychological,emotional?3.注重自己的优点多于注重自己的缺点的更加成功Reason 3: postive psychology alse help us deal with the negative.what health model does is cultivate capacity1.we are ill because we do not cultivate what we are about enough.We do not become self-actualized,we don't do what we are supposed to do.we diminish ourselves and that's when we become illThe five basis premise of this course:1.this course is about bridge building,bridge building among disciplines,eclectic,and bridge building in terms of academia and Main street2.we start to look and find how it is possible about change,techniques methods and tools3.the premise related to the first internal factors primarily determine happiness this is what I'm going to argue for is opposed to happiness which is primarily function of external circumstances4.Human nature needs to be obeyed with all its flaws,with all its shortcomings as opposed to attemping to perfect it on the psychological level5.happiness is also a moral pursueThe erroer of average对双胞胎婴儿的研究发现，大部分的婴儿都很相似，所以说平均很相似，但是也有少数的异常值.but there are also outliers,and often the outliers the differences that are the most interesting.the question is no longer the change ispossible but how the change is possibleOne significant idea:Let's study what worksSecond significant idea:The " growing-tip" statistics let's study what works best 平均数研究的悲哀If we want to know how fast a human being can run, then it is no use to average out the speed of a ‘good sample’of the population; it is far better to collect Olympic gold medal winners and see how well they can do. If we want to know the possibilities for spiritual growth, value growth, or moral development in human beings, then I maintain that we can learn most by studying our most moral, ethical, or saintly people. On the whole I think it is fair to say that human history is a record of the ways in which human nature has been sold short. The highest possibilities of human nature have practically always been underrated.... Certainly it seems more and more clear that what we call ‘normal’in psychology is really a psychopathology of the average, so undramatic and so widely spread that we don’t even notice it ordinarily.”第四节课1.human networks as exponentialthe power of oneAll history is a record of the power of minorities, and of minorities of one.2.extreme circumstances make very little difference to our wellbeing.3.about happiness levelincome matters little when basic need is enoughno change across generationsPlace of residence irrelevant4.The problem is not lower these high expectations that doesn't matter the problem is right versus wrong expectations.The right expectation is to believe in change from within.In fact,our readiness and potential to experiencePremise 3: internal factors vs external factorshappiness is mostly depended on our state of mind.It's about changing our perception--state of mind.It's about changing our interpretation of the world of what's happening to us,of our achievements,of our failures.It's about what we choose to perceive what we choose to focus on.It's about transformation as opposed to the external information or the external success.Premise 4:the constrained natureFirst understand it,make the best use of itPermission to be humanGod, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can change, and the wisdom to know the difference.”1.when we suppress a natural phenomenon,that phenomenon only strenghthens.2.painful emotions are as much as part of human nature as the law of gravity is part of physical naturePermission to be human relates primarily to our affect,to our emotions.that does notmean we need to accept our behavior and our cognition.premise 51.what happens when we experience negative emotions is that our consciousness our thinking narrows and constricts.we focus just one thing2.equating to selfishness and imorality is the N0.1Cause of unhappiness subconsciously mostly,but not only because people feel guilty about pursuing their own happiness.people feel guilty at times feeling good about themselves.Happiness is a positive sum game.3.be the change you want to see in the world.People mostly do what you do,rather than what you say.Belief as self-fulfilling prophecies.Pygmalion(皮格马翁)效应We create reality."Asch conformity experiment" "the obedience to authority"The question is how do we create positive situation.本周任务：多做5件好事第六章How to create positive situation1.have pictures of people you love or places you love2.pleasant objects(memorabilia.flowers,etc)3.quotes4.books,films,music\5.positive research1.two things impact by brief:motivation and the notion of consistency and congruence. We all have schema in our heart.When the inside world and the outside word don't consist .we often do everytihing that we can to get the two on par again.there are several ways we can create the consistency again.(1) update schema(2)ignore or discard external imformation(3)actively seek confirmation(4) create new realityInterpretation:objective interpretation;subjective interpretaion.The most successful people in history is also very often the people who had failed the most times.I failed my way to success--Thomas EdisonPassimist are realistic in terms of their short term goals as well as their long term goals Optimists are unrealistic when it comes to their short term goals,but are realistic when it comes to their long term goals.How to distinguish realistic optimism and unrealistic optimism斯托克代尔悖论(The Stockdale Paradox)斯托克代尔悖论的要点：对前途充满信心，但又直面残酷的现实。